What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Always horny
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? K and I met online in a yahoo chatroom and connected quickly. She’s struggled with previous relationships and I was married and horny, but left out the married part for many months….
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After almost two years , we met in Nashville. I was “at a conference,” at least my wife, kids and colleagues thought. I arrived at the airport after her, I met her at the top of the elevator and she was workin it. We connected and made out for 10 minutes right in the airport. Drove back to the hotel and made out clothed before undressing.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once comfortable and naked, I went down on her, not realizing she had a tampon in until I got there. No worries for me as I used the string to my advantage.
Our first sex was missionary. I was incredibly quick, which led to insecurity later on… but we fucked 3 times at least per day over the 4 days together, including the last time without a condom. She always cleaned me up, telling me my cum was delicious. I did things I’d only seen in movies, including pulling her up to ride my face and lick her tight virgin asshole.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Guilty I cheated on my wife.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? One friend. She’s been through a rough marriage and supported me, understood.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? After this, it led to other visits near my hometown and she moved 20
Minutes away, knowing I have no intent to leave my wife….
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex. There is nothing else in common. She sucks my cock, swallows, likes assplay, plays with and licks my ass, sucks my toes and nipples and worships me. I spank her, bite her, make her beg, use buttplug on her, cockring with her…All things my wife does not do.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We have zero in common. It’s pretty sad. The guilt I feel every time I fuck her.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I would love to have sex with many more people in the next 10-15 years. I want a mff and mfm experience, a gangbang…
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She continues to allow booty calls, which I like, but my schedule is more and more full.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex is a need for men. Women get tired and have different attachments. I could screw someone different each week….I’m not a male slut, but could easily be.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome!
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