Location: Arcata, California
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? First time!
How long ago did this hookup happen? November 2013
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night Stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We’ll call my partner JD. JD was about 5’8/9″ and had an athletic/wrestler build. He was white, with really nice blue eyes and a great smile. He came to visit his friend “L” at our university and we all decided to have a party at one of my friend’s apartments downstairs from mine. The minute we made eye contact, we both kind of knew there was a mutual attraction. Before the hookup, I just thought he was really hot and was someone I definitely wanted to get it on with.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup happened FAST. We were both a little drunk, but knew exactly what was going to happen. He was sitting on a couch across the room and I approached him asking him how he was liking his stay so far. SO YEAH, I instigated it. I ended up sitting on his lap, and caressed his neck a bit. We both exchanged a HUGE smile and I proceeded to ask him if he wanted to go upstairs. A girl making the first move is always refreshing, right? Anyway, I didn’t specify exactly WHERE upstairs we were going to, but he agreed to go with me, hand in hand. Next thing you know, things are getting hot and heavy and we’re on my bed just about ready to do the sex when I pushed him off of me and reached into my desk drawer for a few condoms. He put it on himself and I turned off the lights and the mission was a success. After the deed was done, we slept for a bit, only to be awoken by a phone call from his drunk brother who was also visiting and demanded to know where he was. I pretended to be asleep during the entire thing just to see what he would do. He ended up leaving and didn’t even say bye. I woke up the next morning hungover, with a sore vagina, and with a pair of Superman boxer briefs on my floor. Tell-tale signs of an okay night!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup happened really fast. We started off with oral, and YES, it was reciprocated! The rest was all vaginal. I felt really good and really accomplished during the hookup because I wanted him from the beginning of the night and ended up with him at the end of the night. I didn’t know him one bit; He was HOT though. Super HOT. The only awkward thing about the entire situation was that he was “L”‘s friend, and I just thought it would be weird for “L” if two of his friends went to him and said, “Hey, I fucked your friend.” LOL! My lover was VERY NICE, and he was very sweet and really good in bed. We didn’t talk about much during the hookup because we didn’t know each other all too well but it wasn’t awkward either. It ended after we both came and just ended up falling asleep for a bit until his brother called him telling him to meet him up somewhere.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t discuss any STI histories, but we made sure to use condoms. I took a morning after pill the next day just in case, and made sure to go get a check up for any STIs/STDs at the local Planned Parenthood about 2-3 weeks later even though I didn’t have any symptoms. I came up negative for everything.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? There was mutual attraction. I thought he was REALLY attractive from the moment I walked into the room and saw him hanging out with all of his/my friends. I didn’t initially pursue anything until I saw that he too, was you know… feelin’ me. Basically, He was hot. LOL
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? There was alcohol and weed involved, but not to the point of complete intoxication. We were both a bit buzzed, but definitely more sober than drunk.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I’ll admit I was a bit annoyed at the fact that he didn’t even have the decency to say bye before he left AND had the audacity to leave his Superman boxer briefs on my floor. Maybe that’s his way of saying bye, I guess. Either way, Not cool. I had no future hopes or expectations with this person because I knew that was the first and last time I’ll be seeing him because our mutual friend was only doing a semester at our school. I don’t have a problem with my lover. We even follow each other on Instagram and have each other as friends on Facebook. Everything is cool.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my closest group of friends. They were all so happy because they knew I wanted him at the beginning of the night and eventually ended up with him. They have this joke they like to say as advice to other girls who want to “spit game” at a guy. They say, “Just sit on his lap, caress his neck, and he’s all yours!” I don’t take offense to it at all and find it rather amusing.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, I totally wanted it! And he showed me he did too. We never actually said, “hey let’s have sex” but our actions clearly implied it.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is that it was a lot easier than I thought it would be, and now my friends and I have a funny joke to tell whenever we’re just hanging out. The worst part is that he didn’t say goodbye! It definitely DID NOT change the way I see casual sex or the way I see myself. It actually gave me more confidence to have more casual sex, because hey, it’s actually fun with no strings attached!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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