What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Colombia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? HR
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? A couple of months back
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 1.80m, very well built (crossfit dude), beard, blue eyes. We’ve know each other our whole lives, never friends though, we went to school together (primary, middle and high school).
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had kissed a couple of weeks earlier and he wanted to hook up but I didn’t. I was in a bad place due to a breakup, wanted to get my head out of that, needed to really break free from my previous relationship. He was somewhat safe as we’ve known each other all our lives. I went out to dinner with a friend, told him about the kiss session, talked about the breakup, talked about needing sex, and discussed the guy. He basically worked up my courage for me to make a booty call. All of this with a couple of bottle of wine. Worked up the courage to text him, he picked me up and went to his place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He knew it was a booty call. We both understood where there for sex and it was the first of many to come during a two month period. We had regular vaginal sex, we did go down on each other and it was a fantastic first time. We hanged out after, chatted and he dropped me back home after two very satisfying sessions. however it was very weird to have sex with him. We’ve known each other for such a long time and never pictured him that way. Never ever, looked at him as a possible partner. I remember pausing, mid way and thinking “I am screwing it up big time!”.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt I had screwed up. The sex was great, but I did not want another boyfriend, and was not sure we were on the same page. I really wanted to keep it casual, and I wanted him around a lot more. It went on for a couple of months but came to an end.
We ended it up ok, and are on good terms. I am not sure how I feel right now for him. I want a lot more sex with him as it was amazing, but I know it is not going to happen (he wants a girlfriend, I cannot be that now). We have a lot of friends in common so we see each other a lot and chat, it is a bit awkward, at least on my end.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To cheer myself up
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The friend that sent me there and myy best friend. They where cheering for him as they felt I really needed the distraction and ego boost.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Amazing sex and getting over that other person.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Sharing friends, I’m not sure who knows from his side but feel constantly judged by our mutual friends.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have only had one one night stand, and it was with some one I knew for quite a while. I feel I can compartmentalize my feelings and have casual sex with out feeling any regret. I am also sure that making love is very different from having sex and as having sex is a very egotistical experience it can be more fulfilling that making love.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? really love having all these stories from all around.
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