by Diana Eade
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Education
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was Irish, but with an accent that strong paired with a name that long, there wasn’t much chance of me catching it when we met at a pub that night. On-ish was cute with his clothes on, but so fucking hot with them off. He was built like something from one of those vases from Ancient Greece. When I pressed his flesh, he was rock hard. He was a muscled foreign footballer that was pretty funny and had a decent set of buddies.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The pub closed and my buddy and I decided to party on with these guys.
The night started normally enough. My girl and I were out for a little drink. You know how the best nights run. Pretty much everyone got as messy as each other, we were a merry troop, wandering back to a house together amidst fun, rambling, smashed conversation. On-ish and I had a ready begun to pair off with the run of conversation. No planning was involved. It was pretty casual and had a natural flow.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Irish had a little flat directly across the road from where we were partying, and we got there and started in on the frisky stuff. Sloppy kisses and clothes coming off. Skin on skin. Wow.
As it was, when my top came off, Onish suddenly became very focused. A mad fumbling round the back before something like “I’m just going to have to tear it,” and Bless that hot Irish piece of hotness, he clean tore my bra in half, the seams screaming deliciously.
I love initiative. I thought I might try a bit of my own. My small fingers can fit in a lot of places and he wasn’t complaining about any of it. When I got my mouth on his bits and bobs I had the most unsettling feeling like I was trying to wash down a multivitamin. I had thought maybe his cock looked small because his muscles were so big. But there was a lot else to like, so I decided to get a bit focused myself. Onish went for a bit more of a nuzzled, and then kneeled above me, rolling on the condom.
It seemed really loose. I don’t think it was an extra large one, but I didn’t take a look at the wrapper. It was kind of swimming on him.
“Is it on?” I asked.
“On-ish” was his reply.
It was fun, and hot, and sexy as hell.
He was on top. Then I was on top. The bed was groaning with every slide and thrust as I rode him, grinding down on his balls. I arched my back, and his hand were on my hips, my breasts, my stomach. We quickened the pace. Fuck Yes!. The fucking bed was screeching though.
We were both laughing and high on endorphins, both almost nearly there, caught in the same moment.
Without missing a beat, or disengaging, he used all those strong muscles to lift us both up and find a new place a bit further across on the mattress. I felt like I weighed about as much as a feather. I couldn’t feel more fond of anyone.
There’s a lot to be said for a one night stand with a great attitude. He was good at the conversation thing; really charismatic, interesting, and interested. We both made it clear that this wasn’t going to be more than what it was, but that we may as well make it as fun as we can while we were there.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up, I felt great. The next day I remembered it fondly. I had no desire to find out what his name was, or anything else about him. I figured that if I ran into him again it would be a happy meeting, but with no expectations. He was great fun, and easy going. Mostly though, my feeling is that he was respectful, given the casualness of this encounter.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My party girl. She managed a hook up too, so we were happy for each other. She thought I should chase up is identity for God knows what reason.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was fun, and we were both on the same page about what was going on.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. It was the drink that got the party started, as it were.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex with consent feels great. I don’t understand why everyone isn’t doing it, more often. Casual sex has helped me to really tune in to what I want in all areas of my life. It’s not important for me to put all my eggs in one basket, which never really sat well with me anyway. I question all boundaries now, to figure out if this is what I want, or if it is just the general flow of things in society. In terms of its role in society, I believe that people should do as they please, with consent, and everyone would be a lot happier.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this is a great idea- I see it as broaching a mainstream taboo, especially for women, which is pretty odd.
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