What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Scientist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? More than 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
One More Time
How long ago did this hookup happen? Five years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a beautiful brunette with slightly dark skin, short, thin. We met on a dating website and felt a connection right away. We dated for about a year and a half before I broke up with her. The sex had always been great, but she was emotionally insecure and I got bored of that.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After several months of not seeing each other, we got in touch and she invited me over to her place one night.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When she opened the door, she was wearing a tight, gray dress. I knew right away what her mood was (horny). We sat in her TV room for a while just chatting away. We both wanted to have sex, but I wasn’t making any moves just to see how she reacted. We were sitting on a couch facing each other. The bottom of her dress came up above her thighs and my mouth was watering. Finally, she grabbed my hand and put it between her thighs, a little impatiently. I started caressing her legs and kissing her.
After some time of making out, she led me to her bedroom, where we undressed each other and continued fondling in bed. One of her favorite things was for me to go down on her, so I did until she came (she particularly liked my tongue licking her clit from side to side with force). When we were dating, every time she came after my licking she would then ask me to fuck her (“put it inside me”), and this time was no exception. She got into her favorite position: on her left side, with me behind her. I introduced my dick in her pussy, keeping her right leg raised with my own right knee, while playing with her clit with my right hand. At the same time, I kissed her neck and bit her ear, and also played with her breasts and nipples. She was loving every second of it. It didn’t take long for her to come again, and she let out a really loud scream, unlike I had heard from her in the past. She even put her hand on her mouth a little embarrassed, because she didn’t want her neighbors to notice. But she was very happy, as was I.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I saw her once several months later, but we only went for a coffee. I wanted her very badly, but since I was moving away I didn’t try to make it very serious. About a year after the hookup, I invited her over and she came to visit me. Needless to say, we fucked again, and it was great.
She really wanted to marry me and have kids right away (she was four years older than I), but I didn’t want that. Although I respect her as a person for many reasons, I wouldn’t be happy with her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned it casually to other dates.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Hearing her loud moan when she came.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? When I arrived I notice her feet were a little smelly (I guess she hadn’t showered after work), but after a few minutes I didn’t care 🙂
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex, and I love it when my hookup partners do too.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great for a better understanding of sexual attitudes nowadays.
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