What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 50
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Professor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Patient, connecting, pleasure to my partner
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? Thursday
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Nancie is shorter, 5’4″ with a long body, short legs. Beautiful blonde hair, long fingers, blue eyes, highly intelligent, passionate, assertive and accepts what comes at her in life. Nancie is 10 years older than me at 60.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’ve worked with Nancie teaching classes jointly for the last 3 years. During this time we have gone to lunch together, walks together were we talk about everything, playing Pokemon Go! since that came out, and discussing our love of science fiction and politics (we are both liberal moderates in our approach). We have had a growing attraction that is real, deep and meaningful and we have tried to avoid it coming to a head.
The hookup was planned as Nancie finished teaching a summer course on Thursday and let me know that when she was done, around 3pm she was going to our park to hunt Pokemon for a special event. I had deleted Pokemon Go from my iphone, but reloaded it after she asked if I wanted to join her. She let slide that her husband, her son and daughter in law with their oldest son were going to Seattle for 3 days since her husband had to work and then they would be going around Seattle. I let Nancie know my wife was also out of town until Wednesday June 21st to handle family business regarding the family estate my wife is the trustee for.
Sure enough, 3pm came and Nancie and I drove over to the park, parked our cars and spent the next hour and a half walking around, she collecting Pokemon and I just enjoying her company. We talked like we usually do and we just enjoyed each other’s company, discussing politics, the next Star Wars film, several other films and then work stuff and our families. When it came time to part, Nancie stopped me and asked if I would mind coming over to her house and watching a movie as she wanted company. Nancie had never asked me to her house and I felt such a deep attraction physically, mentally, emotionally to this woman I couldn’t say no.
I had Nancie’s address so we drove our cars there and we both parked in her garage to minimize anyone talking about it. We entered here house, Nancie showed me around most of the house minus the master-bedroom and then had me plop down on the sectional by her massive TV for showing movies.
Nancie wanted to get caught up on some Doctor Who episodes she had missed, her favorite, and I enjoy the show so we got into viewing it. At first, I was in the middle of the sectional and Nancie was on the end and we were both sitting. By the end of the second episode, Nancie had coaxed me down to sit by her. In the third episode, near the end, I felt Nancie’s hand on my leg. She began to rub my thigh and l looked at her. Her hand now continued up my thigh to my balls which she started to rub. Nancie smiled and I knew that this was her goal with me all along today, and honestly, I LOVED it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I told Nancie now “You’re beautiful” and she blushed, and said, “For an old lady?” I replied “No one knows your 60.” which was the truth, she looked to be in her early fifties. I now moved into position on top of her and our eyes locked as my lips pressed against hers, my tongue entering her mouth and tasting her for the first time. Her hands went to work now undoing my belt, then my button on the top of my dockers, then my zipper. I felt her hand enter through my boxer shorts and felt her cool, smoothing skin against my hardening dick.
I kept kissing Nancie and stopped at one point and simply asked “Are you sure about doing this?” Nancie looked shocked, while faking being shocked, and said “Isn’t it time we stopped pretending we want to fuck each other?’ ‘Yes” was my reply. I then removed her shirt and bra and then her pants. By now my pants were off and she simply removed my shirt and tee shirt I wore under my shirt.
I moved down and began to suck her nipples and boobs while my right hand explored her pussy. She had a small patch of pussy hair that I rubbed a few times before going to work on her. I slowly rubbed three of my fingers on the sides of her pussy, turning her on slowly and then inserted a finger curved like my dick would be. Nancie moaned and breathed heavily “Awh, oh” several times as I found her g-spot as I fingered her. Her hand was stroking my dick, now completely hard. I brought Nancie to orgasm with my two fingers inside of her pussy and then parted her legs, and brought my hard dick up to her pleasure entrance. I slowly inserted the head of my dick inside of her pussy and pulled it out and in about 12 times. Nancie moaned a few times and said “Don’t tease her” At that point, I inserted my dick all the way inside of her pussy, and held it there as Nancie enjoyed it. I then pulled about halfway back and then slowly drove it up inside of her again.
I kept this up for about 10 minutes, increasing my pace, slowing my pace, and then just leaving it in her. Damn, this was everything I had hoped it would be. Nancie drew me to her, and while kissing me started to really fuck on my dick. I drove it in and out and Nancie squeezed it with her kegel muscles as she pulled and squeezed. Our pace quickened and I felt my cum rise in my dick. Nancie felt it too and said, “I want it, all of it in me, fuck me, Steve!” I now pounded Nancie, driving my dick in and out of her pussy as she went wild as she pulled it deep inside of her pussy. I felt her pussy contract hard on my dick, and then quiver in delight as Nancie now screamed in pleasure. On her third squeeze, I knew I was ready and I drove my dick all the way in her and let it rip. I felt my cum shoot out of my dick in 5 to 6 waves, as Nancie squeezed her pussy as I came and wrapped her legs around me.
We held each other and enjoyed our post orgasms feeling. I looked at Nancie and said what I had wanted to for so long “I am in love with you.” “Yeah, I know. I love you too.” We talked about what had happened and for both of us, it was the best sex we had had since before our first children had been born. We agreed that we wouldn’t be stopping our affair and that in time, it very well could mean leaving our spouses for each other.
This lasted for a good forty minutes and then after a few kisses, Nancie got up, led me down the hall, leaving our clothes on the floor, and took me to the master bedroom. We got into bed, and now Nancie smiled and began to kiss my neck, turning me on, and then my chest, my naval and past my patch of pubic hair and to my dick. It was moderately hard now, as she took it in her mouth and began to move it in and out of her mouth. I stopped her and explained I wanted to show her how to give a man or at least me a blow job that would blow me away.
I showed Nancie how to kiss the lick the tip of my dick, then to lick the top of my dick’s head and really focus on that. Nancie is an extremely quick learner and responding to my quest of pleasure, figured out what I liked. I become very hard very quickly as I fingered her again. She moved to get back into the missionary position now for more intercourse, but I stopped her. I laid on my back and guided her to mount me. She leaned forward and began to kiss me and using her right hand, she guided my dick back to her luscious and soaking pussy.
I entered her again, and this time Nancie naturally took control. She moved my dick in and out of her pussy at will, driving it partially in, then out, then all the way in and out, then halfway in and out, then 3/4 of the way in, and 1/4 of the way out. Nancie said “I’ve only done the other position with my husband for our married life. This is so damn GOOD!” as she sat up on me. I now thrust my dick slowly, gradually, carefully up inside of her pussy and back and up again for a couple of minutes. I rubbed the side of her boobs also at this time point as I noticed a sex blush forming on her boobs and chest.
She now leaned forward again, taking control of my dick guiding it inside of her, bringing her pleasure and enjoyment with her “Uh Uh Uhm, yeah” and then a moan and whimper of pleasure. My dick fits perfect in her vagina like we were soulmates which we are. Nancie now began to increase the pace of our sex again, her moaning getting louder as my dick got harder. “Oh yeah, so good” came Nancie’s reply.
Nancie now fell onto my chest, my dick slipping out of her pussy and she tried to put it back in her pussy with her right hand. No luck so taking my left hand, I guided my hard dick into her pussy and put it inside of that wonderfully wet, beautiful and pleasure giving part of this incredible woman. As I entered her she screamed in pleasure, spread her legs out on top of me and began to fuck me really hard and fast. Soon her knees were on my sides, her face above mine flush with her sex blush from her chest, to her neck to her face, as she screamed out in pleasure. As she screamed I could no longer control my dick and it shot my wad deep inside of Nancie as I moaned in pleasure and continued to shoot my cum five more times in her.
This time she laid on my, my dick somewhat hard still in her, as she moved her butt around, milking my dick to squeeze every ounce of cum out of me. We kissed and kissed and kissed, her tongue now in my mouth, Nancie moaning “Uhm” several times. Soon we talked and shared yet again, and watched another episode of Dr. Who laying in each other arms, naked, stealing kisses and eventually playing with each other, me with her pussy and she with my dick and balls.
We made love one more time this night before we fell asleep in each other arms. The next day we had no reason to go to the office so we stayed at her house, ate breakfast, showered and made love in the shower, then went back to bed naked and made love throughout the day and night again. Four years of passion bottled up was released and it has never felt better. We did the same thing the third day until we left when her husband was coming home. He called her that afternoon and she said she was out and about and would be home soon. Little did he know that as she was talking on the phone to him, Nancie and I were laying next to each other making love side by side and I was driving my dick deep into her. This week we go on a business trip with separate rooms that are next to each other with an adjoining door. No, we won’t be sleeping apart and our free time will be spent making love and enjoying each other.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Nancie and I are committed to each other. We are beginning plans to separate our finances from our spouses (easier for me than her since ours have been separate) and we plan to live together after separating. When you meet your soulmate and you both agree you fit perfectly emotionally, mentally and cognitively, and sexually/physically, you have to be together.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient, Fulfillment of each other sexually
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Spouses
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Nancie and I admitted our feelings for each other, realizing that we have to seize the moment and gain all that we both have been missing. Gone for her is the husband using porn and trying to hook up to have sex and go for me is the lack of meaningful sex with someone who is in love with me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Realizing and admitting my marriage was over.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I tried for 26 years to have a successful marriage. My spouse gave up on sex 6 years ago and I found an incredible woman who wants me, enjoys us, and fulfills me and I her. So I gave up a sexless marriage for a relationship where I have more in common, engage in meaningful love making and am happy. I’d have casual sex to find that again in my life.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Judge us if you want, but we found happiness. So damn glad we acted on it and didn’t let it slip away from us.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Had sex while a teen and early 20’s. Committed to marriage and never cheated until this. Perhaps an open marriage that allowed me one partner outside the marriage would have saved the marriage since my spouse did not want to have sex anymore.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good
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