What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s a young white male. He’s married with children. We met after he responded to an ad I posted on Craigslist. It’s been off and on again as he gets to a point he walks away. I’m very attracted to him as he is a beautiful young man. He’s got a great body as he works out. He’s very well endowed which is a plus. He could be a model if he chose to pursue that.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at a beautiful park in the city. We held hands talked and kissed as we strolled through the park . We both instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed, he held me close as I noticed his erection pushing into my vaginal area. He unzipped my pants and fondled my tush. I felt a rush. He undressed me gently pushed me against a tree and entered me. There was pure silence as we stared into each other’s eyes. The pain was real as he’s very well endowed. We continued until he ejaculated outside of me. We got him cleaned up with some Kleenex I had in my car he helped. We said our goodbyes and went our separate ways.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went on with our lives. We continued emailing. He recently said that he was feeling guilty and that he didn’t want to meet again because of the guilt.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Revenge / Getting even
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Noone
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? He’s immature and he’s not very educated so the deep conversations I desired, I didn’t get.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The release of my own sexual tension. And he’s great at sex and extremely physically attractive.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guilt and the fact that I felt that he didn’t want me on an emotional level.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes I’ll be more careful about who I play with. Also I will always require the use of condoms.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was some of the best sex that I ever had.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If someone wa ya to share their bodies with someone else as long as it involves2 consenting adults.
I’d like to see women no longer being degraded by society when they choose to engage in it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great and I hope that you continue Sharing stories so that people know that they’re not alone.
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