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by Prof. Hardy
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York, NY
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired Entrepreneur
What’s your current relationship status? None
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Professor Visits a Swing Club with Two of his Students
How long ago did this hookup happen? Six months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It’s a little shameful to admit but both female participants were students of mine a few years ago at a well-known university in NYC. One of the women seduced me after my class ended and the other was a friend of hers whom we occasionally played with …. both are Asian-American, very beautiful, quite tall and thin, now professionals in NYC.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My girlfriend (the original student) suggested that we go to Le Trapeze, a swingers club in New York, as we are both (rather good looking and well built) exhibitionists. Her friend, with whom we had two threesomes in the past, heard about this and wanted to join us … so the race was on! we picked a Saturday night in September, when the club would be its busiest, and had a good dinner beforehand. None of us had ever been to a sex club and the agreement was, since we are primarily exhibitionists, that we would play only with each other, i.e., with no other couples.
To prepare I swore off sex … even masturbation … for a week so the “tank” would fill up again. Although I can go off 2-3 times over the space of a few hours I didn’t want to take any chances. We all dressed nicely and my companions went for waxes.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We arrived at the club at midnight, when the real activity begins we were told. Le Trapeze has many positive aspects (mostly the fun we had with each other) but the place itself is quite a dump. It was not very busy when we arrived and we sat in the lounge, fully dressed, for a while and talked and drank a little wine I brought. We kissed some, sometimes all there of us at once, and hands roamed around a lot as everyone was quite sexily dressed. eventually one of the girls proposed we go to the locker room to get undressed …
And so we did. Clothes must be taken off before you go to the fun rooms. We quickly slipped out of our clothes. The girls wrapped towels around their middle and I carried mine as I had what might be called a raging hard-on at this point. The others in the locker room were a mixed group … some nice looking couples (only couples or single women are allowed at Le trapeze) and others not in great physical condition.
From there we made a tour of the place … small rooms upstairs, not much action, but some people who were not appealing to us. We went downstairs to one of the two large rooms, which was about half empty and had a lot of couples doing their thing. We started with oral sex … the girls gave me a mini BJ and then I went down on them, each in turn, until they screamed and screamed (no exaggeration!). A few people tried to touch or join us but we told them we don’t share and they just watched. We were probably there about 45 minutes … I like cunnilingus a lot … and then we needed a break and went back to the lounge for some food, some water, and a rest.
After a while we decided to go to the other orgy room … to make a long story short, I rode each of my girls to completion, first in missionary and then doggy style but were she lies down completely and I take her from the rear. Because of my age (and the use of condoms) I can go on a long time, so each in turn (and one especially)had multiple orgasms. Between the two of them we rested for half an hour and watched the show and cuddled and then I went at the other..
Finally, everyone was happy and we got up and dressed. On the way out, in the locker room, a lone woman whom we had not seen (and she was very good looking, so good we wished later she had joined us) whispered to us that we were a very cute threesome.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We all went back to my apartment for the night and all slept in my bed … but nothing happened, we were exhausted and slept until well after Noon. We loved it and did it again about 3 months later and now we are planning on going back next month.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We’ve just talked amongst ourselves.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Our chance to be exhibitionists in a n exhibitionist environment.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wouldn’t want to see Le Trapeze when the lights are turned up.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Everything here is as it happened … this is not fanciful.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I haven’t had a lot of casual sex and, in fact, this wasn’t that casual … we know each other well. We were just exploring a new experience.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I appreciate reading about it.
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