Current location: NYC
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Fashion Photographer
Relationship status: Divorced/Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 55-60
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One
How long ago did this hookup happen? Three Years
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One Night Stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? “Red” I met at a pub. She was in her early thirties, tall with long red hair, a little curvy but with a big chest. She was also English like myself which was part of the draw. I didn’t know her at all before we met but I was instantly attracted to her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was dealing with the damage of the end of my marriage. I wasn’t the best husband, gone more than I was home for work. My wife had had an affair and I had retaliated by doing the same, and it doomed us. The hardest part was we had two young children.
My divorce had just gone through that week and I had gone to the Pub to drown my sorrows. They showed Football (again soccer for you yanks) games from back home which are hard to get here in the states. My plan for the evening had been to drink (I could still drink then) and watch football.
Three other women had come up to me at the bar, the first was too pretty and I think I mentioned in my previous post how I feel about models. The second looked way too much like my ex-wife. The third was a brunette with glasses and tattoos but she was with a few friends (I would end up fucking her a few weeks later).
I heard a woman making comments about the football team and turned and it was this pretty redhead. Red and I started talking, mostly complaining about how our team was doing this year. We started flirting and I learned she had just broken up with a boyfriend that had been cheating on her.
Red asked if I wanted to go back to her place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to her building, at this point making out and a bit grabby. I took her underwear off in the elevator, she had on a short skirt. We tore each other’s clothes off and at this point the alcohol kicked in and things get sort of blurry.
I can remember her giving me oral and at some point I must have finished inside her. I woke up the next morning with a horrible hangover which was weird because I had drank far more in the past. I woke Red up trying to get out of bed and we kissed and she played with my cock a bit but we did not get intimate again. She put her number in my phone and said she had enjoyed herself and if I wanted to call her she wouldn’t mind seeing me again but I think Red realized she was probably a one night rebound and I left planning on never seeing her again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We mentioned we were both clean but we were not as safe as we should have been as Red did get pregnant.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was hurting and lonely and probably a bit horny myself.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had had many glasses of bourbon and Red had also had a few beers. I was drunk.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had planned on never seeing Red again and moved on, even casually dated a woman for a few months. However about six months after we hooked up, Red knocked on my door. I was not sure how she had tracked me down, I hadn’t given her my number and hell, we hadn’t even given each other our names.
She was pregnant, obvious from how big she was now and she said it was mine. Red said she had debated even tracking me down but said I deserved to know she was keeping the baby. I didn’t believe her until a paternity test after my son was born. I have been there for the boy but nothing has happened between me and his mom and I am making sure nothing does.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few people know as there is a kid involved. My ex-wife was pretty angry I knocked a girl up while on the rebound.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes for both of us.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret we were as not safe as we should have been and a baby was born
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Being able to let go and have sex again, worst part was we were not safe and a baby was born because of it. I have been very careful since then. This however did get me back on the horse and I started perusing women again. I was also diagnosed with a medical condition shortly after this that made me unable to drink or smoke. After this I spent a few years with women as a real vice.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
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