What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 46
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Santa Barbara
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Dude
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Varies
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my manager at FAO Schwarz in Vegas. No longer there. I was dating another manager at the time. Us plus another girl all lived in the same house. They were all good looking girls. Who liked to go to the Vegas bars and have a good time.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This happened at the house. My girlfriend and another roommate went to work. So it was me and the other manager in the house. They all went out the night before.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was in bed because I was working 3 jobs at the time. I felt somebody get into bed….I thought it was my girlfriend. But it was a naked body and she said I’m cold. It was my roommate! I was half asleep. She said I turned around to face her and I said get warm and she put her head on my chest and I was hugging her. We slept for a few hours…it was amazingly comfortable. So as I started waking up I started rubbing her back and her side maybe a little ass. She put my hand on her tits which were about a handful nice size. Then we started kissing and feeling each others’ body. Eventually little popped up and wanted to play. So I made sure I accidentally bumped it into her so she knew I was up. It was already up so no need for a blowjob. She started to rub it then I rolled her onto her back and went to work. Then it was her turn to be on top. She squeezed my shoulders really tight and was riding me. Her eyes were open and we were staring at each other as she was going up and down. After a few different positions. My favorite being sideways while holding her side and shoulder. I came inside her even though I didn’t know if she was on the pill. Good thing she was. The whole time I knew I shouldn’t be doing it but what guy could refuse a gift like that in your bed? It actually made it hotter knowing it was wrong. But I think it messed up my loyalty to whoever I’m seeing. We were roommates for about a year or so. That same day I also went down to toss her salad before the roommate got back. I was wayyyyyy up there and used a little finger in the bootie. There is nothing more intimate than eating pussy.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt guilty but it was so good. We would sneak in some extracurricular time when we could. One time we were all in one of their girlfriends’ trucks. It was a big truck with an extra cab. I think we had six girls and me in there. We were going to see the Christmas lights around town and we went to an ice rink to skate. We all had big jackets because Vegas is freezing at night. Especially in the winter. As we were driving around to see the lights I felt my roommates hand on my peeper. Eventually, she got her hand in there. I was commando. So I was getting worked on with my girlfriend right next to me under the jackets that we had in our laps. She was oblivious to what was happening. Even though she was right next to me I texted my roommate…..I told her to lift up her buttcheek so that I could rub her pussy. She got really wet. But my hand was getting numb and now it smelled like sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told it to a few close friends who are female. Because they always ask about past relations.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I believe that it’s good to know as many people intimately as you can while on this earth. It’s better than just knowing people in passing.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We live far apart now.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It kind of messed me up from being loyàl. But it also gave me more confidence to ask girls out and be candid with them.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I find that being single there are lots of women especially married ones who need to break from the norm once in a while.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good
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