What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 33
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 10
Sex With A Complete Stranger
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Random quick sex with complete stranger
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was some girl I saw at a warehouse party. She seemed to be young, maybe even still at high school. She is petite, long dark hair, average boobs. I really don’t know anything about her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was at a warehouse party with a couple of friends. It was around midnight when my friends and I were sitting around outside smoking dope. There was this girl who had made the rounds earlier asking for pills. She had asked us and now she came back to us. She had a drag on our joint and was incredibly happy and drugged out. She had obviously found what she was looking for. She started to tell all of us that we were incredibly hot and just kissed all of us on the mouth. She did this several times. She seemed to be very high on whatever she had managed to find. After she had stayed with us for maybe ten minutes, she went off and we kept on chatting and smoking, joking about this silly girl.
At one point, the dope kicked in on my and I felt very high. I had this idea that I am a sex monarch and thus should look for that girl and maybe fuck her. It seemed a genuine good idea at that point. I told my friends that I was going for a stroll and left them. I looked around for that girl and found her. She was still tripping. I told her how hot she was and she kissed me again. She let me fondle her. I suggested that I knew a dark spot somewhere near where we could go and be unseen. She agreed and we left.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took her into some alley where I thought that it was unlikely that anyone would pass by in the next half an hour or so. I kissed the girl and fondled her again. I asked her whether she would like me to fuck her.
The girl turned around and lowered her pants, I grabbed her arse and got out my dick. I rubbed my dick across her arse and fingered her pussy. She got wet. I thought about getting condom out that I always keep in my wallet. But then I had that really evil impulse that I should just fuck her bareback, she was so drugged out that she would not notice. I followed that idea and pressed my dick bareback into her pussy. I fucked her from behind. She seemed to like it. We did not interact much while I was fucking. I only fondled her breasts at times, not even getting under her clothes.
Fortunately I realised what I was doing when I was about to ejaculate. I pulled out and squirted my cum on her legs. I just pulled up my pants and left her.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went back to my friends. They had guessed what I had done and wanted to hear the story. I lied to them and told them to I had used a condom. I started to feel really bad about what I had done. I think I have taken advantage of the girl’s drugged state and I should have at least used condoms. I went home soon afterwards because I did not want to run across that girl at the party again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, I don’t know what the girl was on, but she was clearly high on some illicit substance.
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They were too out of it / passed out / asleep and therefore unable to give consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? As mentioned above, I talked about it with my friends and lied about the condom thing. They thought it was the normal thing for me to do. I felt too embarrassed about this story to tell my motherly girlfriend.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I am disgusted with my behaviour. I have taken advantage of the drugged out state of a girl that maybe is still in her teens. I did not even use condoms. This shit could have had seriously bad effects. I should have controlled myself better.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I guess the feeling of being able to just walk up to some random girl and get to have sex immediately.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I am feeling guilty and whatever this girl is going through right now. I don’t know her at all and have no way of contacting her in order to find out. I probably should apologise to her, but I can’t even do that. I wonder whether I would even recognise her if I would see her again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think I have gone too far this time and I should be more thoughtful of what I do.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I will still pursue casual sex as much as I can.
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