What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Kenya
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Counselor
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Well, I am a freak
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Sex With A Married Man
How long ago did this hookup happen? one month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Oliver and I had met three years ago and since then there had been a crazy sexual tension between us. We didn’t explore the sexual energy earlier because of some cultural restrictions. He was a lecturer at my university and I had just joined as a student. I felt very attracted to him, I didn’t care that he was double my age or that he was married.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I bumped into him recently at uni and we got talking and exchanging contacts. I instigated the sex, I didn’t care much about what people would think, I just wanted him inside me. I had a very high appetite for him, especially since we both had waited three years for this moment. Besides, I am graduating so I felt like I deserve some hot Oliver sex before I left.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I went to his place at midday, we made out for about half an hour. He kept telling me how much he loved me and asking what I felt towards him. I was too horny to respond to these serious questions at the time so I said that I preferred to show him instead. He suggested that we go to his bedroom but I refused, I wanted to fuck in the other bedroom that I suspected was his son’s. He agreed to my crazy idea and we fucked in the son’s room. He touched my pussy, I wasn’t wearing any panties. I wanted to keep my clothes on. He just lifted my skirt, slid his penis inside me and fucked the shit out of me. He fucked me util I came, and he shot his load inside me. Yes he was a very good lover. It ended with us straightening things in the room because his son was on his way home and I didn’t want him to find me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked about future plans. We wanted to keep fucking so we talked about keeping it secretive.I felt very horny the next day, I just wanted more and more of him. I still feel attracted towards him, I think that I’m developing feelings. We’ve had sex five more times since then.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being able to fulfill my fantasy for older men. And the fact that he’s married makes it taboo, I like its unconventional nature
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we have to consider his family in all our plans
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I hope that his wife doesn’t find me out. He is expressing his desire to have a child with me, but for now I am just a horny girl looking for sex. I like that he is so emotionally open with me.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I hate the notion that a sexually liberated woman is considered a slut. Women love sex more than men, I don’t see why we should fulfill our desires.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great forum for sharing
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