What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Ashville, OH
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sexually I tend to favor men.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was just under 6 ft. Brown hair he kept buzzed. Athletic build but didn’t have finely toned muscles or a six pack. Before we met in person, I only knew what he told me on grindr. But after we met I realized I knew more about him than I thought. He worked on a farm and we met in one of the barns that was used as a garage/shop. I was intrigued before we met. I’ve always loved mysteries.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He told me that when I get there to just walk in and he would walk up to me and we would just dive tight into it and kiss to break the tension. And that’s exactly what he did. He didn’t wanna talk. So I walked in. I saw who he was, he walked up and kissed me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After he first kissed me, we moved to stack of hay bales where we continued to make out. When he started to rub my dick through my pants, I knew it was time for me to take them off. I stood up and unzipped my pants and let them fall to the ground. He sat up and just went for it. He grabbed my dick and started to suck on it and jerk it. I felt thrilled because here’s the thing. I recognized him from high school. He was a grade below me so he was a senior at the time. In school, he was one of the macho cowboys, like Mr. Man, like the epitaph of heterosexual. Popular too. So it was a complete shock to me. And he told me on the app that he never did anything before and wanted to be discreet. So the thrill was so exciting. He was very eager. He was ok at oral for never doing it before. But I gave him some tips to help him. But we didn’t really talk at all besides that. He kept going until he got me to cum in his mouth. Kept it in there for a few seconds to get the taste, but chose not to swallow.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Immediately after the hookup, I made sure to stay in contact with him. So I texted him with an idea. I suggested that since he wanted to be as discreet as possible, that maybe he should only hookup with me and do more. He agreed. So we met a ton more after. The next time, we met we swapped oral. Not until the fourth time we met did we finally do anal (he bottomed). We were just fuck buddies. When one of got horny, we would hit the other up. We didn’t hang out otherwise. We don’t get the chance to hookup as often now because he goes to college in another state and is hardly ever home.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I tell strangers on whisper or other story sharing sites bcs its a good one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The shock factor. The fun. I was also very inexperienced. So we got to get experience with each other.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Didn’t continue.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has made me more comuand confident. I think the stigma surrounding it is based off of jealousy and is not justified. Just gotta be the change you want to see in this world.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great platform that gives me the opportunity to share my experiences.
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