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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 60
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 45
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

I Was a Single Female Swinger

How long ago did this hookup happen? 15 yrs

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One was a jock, the other was a sweet nerdy bearded guy. I met them at a club. They were both very sweet and shy.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? AT the club. They approached me, we talked a bit and then we went to a room to fuck.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was surprisingly normal. We started making out and he started going down on one, and then he fucked me. But he left, he just wanted to get laid. The whole idea was to make it a threesome! The other guy and I fucked each other, and then we hung out for the rest of the evening until it was time for me to leave.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was very happy about the fact that I had a sexual adventure, but not too happy about the participants staying with it. You don’t split in the midst of a threesome. Weirdo. They were both very sweet tho.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? BBest friend. curious, a little appalled, lol.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sense of adventure, that I was doing something very naughty (my husband knew and ok’ed it, but it still felt naughty.) Getting ready for it was a trip and nearly more satisfying than the encounter. And the last thing was that I found I really loved the sense of control, hooking up like I thought guys did all the time and walking away no strings attached. It wasn’t messy, it was fun. The last thing was very powerful for me as a middle-aged woman.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? the participants! they were pretty silly and newbies, but sweet enough so I forgave them.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. It was totally empowering. Risky behavior, but empowering. It led me to a couple affairs, and more adventures over the next ten years or so.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? After years of very unsatisfying married sex, it was incredibly freeing. And it made me feel good about my middle-aged body.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has its place. Sex is powerful. Learning to brandish it and use it as a woman can be very freeing, in ways you don’t even know about until you try it.

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