What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White/North African
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Tunis, Tunisia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Writer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Heterosexual but I flirt with some guys when I’m really drunk/high
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
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How long ago did this hookup happen? February 2017
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at a bar, her best gay friend was dating a good friend of mine and he introduced us. At first, I thought that she’s out of my league and she is in a certain way. She’s older than me, beautiful brunette with perfect tits and ass and she has an amazing work. Talking with her was a pure delight, we’ve laughed a lot before doing anything.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was flirting with another girl at the time then my crush’s best gay friend came and told me “Dude go to my best friend, she wants you”. I did not believe it at first but I went directly to the girl and we started flirting and talking about everything, the first girl came back and it became a competition for my head (it was very flattering lol). When the first girl went to bring a beer, I’ve kissed the other and we started to make out in the bar, no fucks were given that day.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We first kissed on a Saturday and she came to my house two days later. We smoked some pot while I was preparing dinner but I just made the entrees and we ended up fucking like crazy. We went to my room and took off our clothes, she was so horny and I was still not realizing that I had that kind of goddesses in my bed. At first, I was so tired that I could not get it up, so I ate her and her pussy was the sweetest I’ve ever tasted, then she sucked me and man, she knew how to properly handle a dick! We ended up fucking like rabbits, we just did not stop, and it was beyond satisfying. She has some very nice tattoos and a warm body, sex was on a whole another level. When we first slept together, I was still hurt over some old shit, being in her made me realize that sex can be enormously good and I’ve felt that I was a virgin before tasting someone that delightful.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were just kissing and looking at each other, we loved kissing each other and fucking. The mood was very intimate and we were very stoned so it did add some sort of punch to our libido. After that unforgettable night, I did not know what to think about that person, I liked her so fucking much and I just craved her more and more. We saw each other for about two weeks and it was my best sexual experience ever.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends who were very proud because that woman was coming from a dream, a strong independent, sexy and epic sexual partner.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’ve never felt that kind of complicity and intimacy with someone. The person, the sex, and everything was perfect.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? How it ended. She disappeared, ignored me and disappeared, that fucked up my ego in a certain sense.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has, at that time I was still kind of depressed over an ex who cheated on me but knowing that the last girl was all I needed to get over my past. I rediscovered sex actually, I rediscovered my potential to be a perfect lover for every girl who would come to my bed. I’ve fucked a friend two weeks ago and I felt very experienced and everything, this was a direct consequence from two weeks of intense sex with that person.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? All things considered, we never talked about the nature of our thing and I wish we did. I thought that it was going on its own until she disappeared.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m not very fond of monogamy. Humanity needs more sexual liberation and we need to enjoy sex as much as we can with everyone we like. Keeping ourselves in that monogamy square is just frustrating and creates too many problems. I was monogamous and my first cheated on me, very wrong shit.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it, people are free to talk about everything without feeling judged nor anything.
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