by

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Healthcare
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? many dozens
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sucking In The Car

How long ago did this hookup happen? two months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We started talking at the bar at a St. Patrick’s Day party. I was there with a couple of girlfriends, and it was our second or third bar of the evening. He was sitting beside me. He is six feet tall with floppy curly hair. He has a Jersey accent but most of his family is in Northern Europe. We were talking jokingly about everything, and joking with the other people. At one point, right after I asked him to give me his phone number, my husband walked in and noticed us talking. He stayed briefly and then left. I realized with surprise the next day that I did indeed have his number in my phone. I texted him and said it was nice talking to him and he responded likewise. I told him my husband was going out of town for a week and I was going to be at the same bar with a girlfriend the following Tuesday.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When I got to the bar, I texted him that we were there, and he said he would come say hi. He lived literally across the street behind the bar. When he got there, my girlfriend and I were eating and chatting, so he joined us. I felt a little bad about bringing her for a ruse; I introduced him as a friend but she had no idea I was there for him. When she went to the bathroom he whispered, “You know usually if a girl invites me to meet, I think it’s about sex. I don’t know, that’s just how I think.” I told him, maybe I do want sex. Maybe not. I noticed his ears perked up and he was very interested in everything I was whispering. I told him that my husband had encouraged me to find some action elsewhere since his libido is much lower. Eventually, my girlfriend left. He and I had a couple of beers and then he offered to drive me home. It was night and we went into his car, in a carport, where it was dark. The second our doors were closed, he lunged at me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed deeply and he was great at it. He felt me up and then had his hand in my jeans. He fingered me for several minutes as we kissed, and massaged all of my labia and my clit. I was extremely wet and came on his hand, bucking and bruising myself on the gearshift. After I was satisfied, I reached into his lap and grabbed his belt. He leaned back with a sigh as I unbuckled his leather belt, pulled out the strap and unzipped his pants. He leaned back and helped me guide his very large, erect cock out. I leaned down and started to lick it all over. Then I made out with it. He is uncircumcised so the feeling of kissing and sucking the tip was incredibly erotic. I licked and sucked at his hole, feeling it was kissing me back. I ran my fingers all over the rest of his shaft as I squeezed and stroked and licked it. I think he was kind of trying to be cool, saying “oh, baby yeah – ” then he blurted “OH MY GOD GIRL, YOU’RE…. FUCK!” I fucked him with my mouth harder and harder, loving every lick, squeezing the length of his shaft until I knew he had to come. He came, panting “fuck, fuck yeah” – right into my mouth, and I sucked it out of him and swallowed.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up alone at home in the morning and my first thought was extremely happy. I thought “I blew somebody in a car!” A couple of days later, I returned to the bar and texted him. He took me inside his house and we fucked for real. I stripped the second I went in his room and he took his belt off, slapping my ass a couple of times with it. Then he made me get on his pool table on all fours while he ate me out. I met him one more time after that. He is a kind and attractive person who has no expectations of me and is appreciative. I now know I could text him if I need some and he will deliver.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. I once lost my best friend by confiding this sort of information so now I don’t trust anybody.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Feeling dirty and getting to know a new cock. Also, he was very appreciative. He told me my body is “ridiculous” and the last time he fucked somebody with a body like mine, she was 19 years old.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His house is pretty messy.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I always knew I was a dirty girl. It was empowering to just pick up a stranger at a bar and get some orgasms. In fact, I had been frustrated for a long time and this particular episode during the week my husband was out of town inspired me to pick up two other new lovers, leaving this one to go meet another the second night.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He mentioned on several occasions that he was afraid my husband will kill him, and seems a little paranoid about that. He asked me to show him in my phone that I had deleted my texts. He doesn’t seem to consider the fact that I also used a credit card to park at the meter near his house and if somebody wanted to trace me, there are other ways.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My sexuality and body belong to me, and not anybody else. I was damaged by a very repressive religious culture in growing up and have spent a lot of years proving to myself that sex is good and I deserve to enjoy it. I do not hurt anybody. My husband told me to get laid and just not tell him about it so I have a dream situation. I’m sorry more people don’t get to feel this freedom.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I am loving reading people’s stories. I especially like how people seem to take such a respectful tone, and show genuine gratitude for what their hookup partner provided to them.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

Comments