by Mathew Snook
Race/ethnicity: White european
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Relationship status: Spoken for
Religious affiliation: Mindfulness
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Much more towards female but open minded
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 49 (not including oral)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ish
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Drunken
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Attraction was limited but as Lord Buckley once said of the Marquis De Sade, “He did what he did because he knew it was the wrong thing to do”. As any serial one night stand participator will inform you, after a while it is merely the satisfaction of a successful hunt rather than one of any great sexual satisfaction.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A bar in the centre of town which was a favourite haunt of mine and a long way from where I was living at the time. Much the same as most friday night spontaneous engagements, fuelled by alcohol and the looming Armageddon of closing. I had no more ambition than simply not paying the extortionate rate of a taxi fair home and not sleeping by myself.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup led only to fumbling foreplay on both sides as the lady in question was far less intoxicated than myself and wished to keep her virtue intact it went no further. The story itself is more about what happened proceeding the evening.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Too long ago to remember but probably none.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? At the time I was addicted to one night stands.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? The details are blurred.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The hookup ended thus so, and hence the writing in on my part.
I awoke at about 6am on the saturday morning after the friday night meeting. It was winter, it had been raining hard for several days. I had work at 9am as at the time I was working in a retail store in the centre of town. I rolled over and realised I had made a bit of a mistake and that the lady in question was not (excuse the brashness) much of a looker. I decided to make my exit silently and quietly to avoid waking her up and thus an awkward situation. Though when attempting to open the front door I couldn’t open it on account of the wood swelling due to the rain. I pulled several times and in the end caused such a racket she woke up and came out, neither of us spoke and it became a very horrible atmosphere as she then attempted to open it, in the end all of her house mates had woken up due to the noise and came down stairs to see what was happening, all very sleepy and confused. In the end one of the boys had managed to pull it open, all 6 of us stood there 5 in pyjamas 1 with a guilty look and his coat in hand. Once it was open I turned and nodded in an obliging manner and quickly made my departure.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my boss as it had made me 15 minutes late for work, as usual with my excuses she just shook her had in grave despair.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I think it was what it was on both parts.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? To have regrets is a negative feeling so detrimental to ones self.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Just to laugh when I look back, it did not deter me from further escapades but merely to make sure I wouldn’t want to leave under the cover of darkness again, so in short I became more choosey.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
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