by Olive Liver
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Charleston
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I kiss girls when I drink.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Less than 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Blonde hair. Finnish. Met him in Bangkok. Met him on New Year’s Eve and he took my two friends and me to a random temple at 4 AM. We ended up talking for a few hours at my pool until about 8 AM. He left later that day and came back a week later to stay with me. I thought he was extremely attractive even with my midnight eyes.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began on the infamous Khao San Road. We ran into his friend and him at the bar. We all started chatting. I ran into him again after losing him. I told him to give me his number. He said he enjoyed my assertiveness. He wanted to do something adventurous that night after the bar…that is when I realized hey I like this dude!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were driving back to my apartment from a night out filled with drinks and laughter. I was feeling extra frisky and wanted to hook up. We started having sex in the back of the taxi and I am pretty sure the man was watching which is why he did not tell us to stop. But yet again, English isn’t spoken much there. Oh, I was also wearing a romper….
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We got back to my apartment and got it on. He is back in Finland but I hope to see him again one day. Never clicked with someone so much. He had the best personality.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was in a taxi… and I didn’t tip cause he got a free show.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Still had to pay for the taxi. 🙁
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes…sex is better when it is spicier
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I hope the boy reads this.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? AWESOME
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