by Jack Piper
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Barista
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a tall built white guy, blonde, handsome, big chest, hairless, and a deep voice, we met through the gay hookup app called Grindr, and officially met in person at his apartment later that week. I was very nervous. He was the first person I ever had sex with. He was my first kiss too.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The planning of it happened on the app. I had downloaded it because I knew I was gay and wanted to try gay sex. The app is a place for hookups. It was a mutual instigation and the planning was very minimal, “come over Friday” was the most planning we did.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I had lied to him and told him I was bisexual and hooking up with girls. I didn’t want him to know I was losing my virginity. Because I was so vanilla and new to gay sex, I was very scared. We did anal and oral. I felt natural, he couldn’t tell it was my first time which I thought was weird but I guess sex is natural and in my DNA. He was nice and very suave, made me feel important. We didn’t talk much. He kind of just told me what to do. It ended with a mutual climax.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great! Empowered. I knew I was gay finally. The stress was lifted. I was able to say it in a mirror. Then I started feeling guilty. He was older than me and being gay is a sin. We hooked up 4 more times then I cut it off because I went to college. Today I feel indifferent toward him. He was my first sexual experience but it really didn’t mean as much as everyone said it was going to.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one really just my close friends and they were proud.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was gay. I sucked a penis.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He was like 30 and was 19.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah I became more confident and comfortable with sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No, it was very fun.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish it would be more accepted.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s amazing! The Ted Talk was empowering. I love this idea!
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