Race/ethnicity: Puerto Rican/French
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Relationship status: Taken
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Ending & Beginning of…
How long ago did this hookup happen? More than a year ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Secret hookup that turned into a relationship
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was Vietnamese, maybe 5’6 or 5’7. Wore glasses, short black hair, a little on the chubby side, but cute face.
My neighbors who own a vacation home across the street from me introduced us. He was originally up with his ‘girlfriend’ at the time. We had some stuff in common and thought nothing of him when he left.
A few days later, a friend of mine texted me asking if it would be okay if she gave that guy (we’ll name him BB) my number. I said sure. BB starts talking in ways that sound flirty and I have to state that ‘I have a boyfriend.’ He insists he’s just being friendly and I let it go.
We got super chatty with each other since we found out we had MORE in common, which upset my boyfriend at the time (we’ll call him PW) since we had broken up like, two weeks before that and we’re teetering on ANOTHER break up anyway.
BB invited me to go down to his city and staying a night (PW didn’t know that part). PW had an issue with this. When you tell me ‘no,’ I’m gonna do it anyway.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went down to BB’s current city. I was SUPPOSED to meet at his place, but I got lost and parked at an Asian grocery store and waited for him to come with his car to get me.
Parked at his place, he drove us to Chinatown where we held hands and took me to eat. Went to a bunch of places, including Ikea where he smacked my ass. Despite being in a relationship, I didn’t get mad because I wasn’t thinking of PW anyway. Went out with our friend & her boyfriend for her 21st birthday and went back to BB’s house to chill out. We cuddled in his bed while watching a movie or anime (him using my chest or stomach as a pillow). At some point, I felt him staring at me. I just looked down and smiled and went back to the movie. Eventually, he went, “Fuck it” and kissed me. I kissed back and then he shoved his hand between my legs pretty fucking quickly.
I would be lying if I thought that a hookup wouldn’t happen. We clearly thought the other were attractive since we flirted so much over text/Facebook prior to meeting up. I was only surprised just how out of nowhere it occurred.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The details are pretty foggy, but after he felt me up over my clothes, he shoved my pajama pants down and stuck three fingers inside me without so much as a ‘can I…?’ It hurt a little bit, but he began fingering me and it felt hella better. He squeezed my tits roughly and kissed me occasionally. Not even a few minutes of playing with me did he reach over me for a condom, put it on, and stick his (rather impressive) dick inside of me.
I’ll take a brief interlude to state that while with PW, I never REALLY enjoyed sex with him. He was rather small in size, gentle in movement, he got soft often which led to lots of breaks of foreplay to get him back up, and I just was never into it. I thought of playing Candy Crush more than the dick inside of me. PW had taken my virginity, so it didn’t leave a good impression what sex could be for me.
BB was an entirely different experience. With every rough thrust, I FELT him not only in me, but dominating. He choked me and pulled my hair, things I did not know I was even into. He tried to get me to touch myself in front of him, but I was shy, so he just kept pounding into me. It hurt soooo good though.
At some point, I think he wore himself out and just flopped over to the side. I laid on my back in the darkness and the first thing I said was, “I just fucked up.”
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Neither of us did. BB just got tired and gave up.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t talk about our sex lives, but I’m glad he grabbed a condom.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was on the last rope with my relationship with PW and BB was just enough bait to lure me into being unfaithful.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I’m straightedge, but BB had a drink or two, nothing to be tipsy other though.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I broke up with PW because he didn’t deserve my unfaithfulness. I did not tell him I hooked up with BB though. He was devastated enough that I broke up with him. In actuality, I didn’t regret my hookup. I think I am more of an open relationship sort of girl. If it wasn’t for the fact that I wasn’t into PW, I would have happily continued our relationship despite the hook up.
BB didn’t really care about what happened, though we engaged in what I thought was a ‘casual relationship’ from then on. After a month or two, found out that the ‘girlfriend’ he had when we first met, was STILL his girlfriend. All he did was stop talking to her when we started to meet up. Karma bit me for being a cheater. The girlfriend, a friend of ours, and I met up for a lovely brunch to discuss the boy’s fuck up and sent a selfie of us together to him. I heard that he cried.
BB was just a cowardly bitch who thought himself as a player. He played me out of a relationship and thought he could juggle a main chick AND side chick.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Closest friends. They respected that I broke up with PW since it wouldn’t be fair to keep stringing him along, but congratulated me on finding a type of sex I like.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual both ways.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret breaking the last string with PW in that way.
I regret further involving myself in BB, who turned out to be a lying bitch.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I discovered I enjoy BDSM and rough sex which I happily practice with my current boyfriend.
The experience surprisingly did change a lot of things about me. In high school, I was a militant straightedge kid who thought any sex outside of a relationship was ‘slutty’ and ‘disrespectful’ of yourself. But it helped open my eyes that ‘hey, I can fuck so and so and still come home happy with myself.’
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Never involve yourself with a person who pursues you DESPITE knowing you have a partner. Seriously. No matter how sweet or how much in common you have. They have no respect for you and chances are, you’re only a game for their ego.
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