What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
The Exchange Student
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Really tall and longish brown hair. I can’t describe him very well but he was so attractive not only in the way he looked but his demeanour. He was an exchange student from the U.S at my uni and we met through mutual friends at a party. we got along really well and he added me on Facebook the same night we met and messaged me because apparently I offered to show him around town however we never ended up making plans because I had a possessive boyfriend at the time.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? the first time it almost happened was at a house party. I had just come out of a pretty nasty break up and partly wanted to spike jealousy in my exes eyes, but I was also really horny- I was determined to get with someone that night. At the party, I downed a few drinks and made sure he saw me dancing sexy so that he would make the first move. However he wasn’t making any signs and I was about ready to go up and instigate it myself when one of my friends started violently vomiting from alcohol and I had to take care of her. I ended up catching a taxi back to uni (where I live) and putting her to bed. I’d kind of given up on getting with him and wasn’t feeling as horny or motivated anymore. But the next day at lunch we sat next to each other and after a while he kind of spat out how sexy I looked that night. I smirked and asked why he didn’t do anything then and he asked if I wanted to meet up on Friday night. When Friday came I wore a super tight dress and went to his dorm. We went for drinks at a bar in town and the whole time it felt a bit awkward just the two of us. Afterwards we smoked in a park nearby for a bit which broke the tension and he admitted he wanted to fuck me ever since he got to here. I smiled but it made me incredibly horny.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? when we got to his dorm I lay down on his bed and started undressing myself. He then crawled on top of my and kissed my whole body and I helped him undress. I rubbed his cock over the top of his jocks until it was rock hard, the whole time his finger was circling my vagina. I grabbed his head and whispered “I liked to be teased”. He didn’t tease for long though and it wasn’t great but when he actually started to finger me it was amazing. He slipped a finger in whilst rubbing my breast and making direct eye contact with me. I let out a soft moan and he seemed to enjoy this and stuck another finger in. He then started going faster and I went to rub my clit but he pulled my hand back and said he’ll do the work. He went down on me and licked my clit whilst fingering me. I was long gone and moaning quietly into the pillow. When I came it was such a rush that I moaned louder than I’ve ever moaned before and he had to put his hand across my mouth because we were in dorms. I didn’t care and started biting his hand before turning him into the bed and kissing his stomach and above his cock before taking it into my mouth. It has such a huge girth I loved holding in my hands and I put it in between my tits before I sucked it and when I did I went to town and used hand as well but didn’t let him cum. Right before he came he flipped me over and I thought we were doing doggy style but he dragged his cock around my asshole. I felt kind of scared but also turned on. But he didn’t put it in there and we ended up fucking doggy style until we both came. We then collapsed in a heap on his bed and slept exhausted.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning I left to my room pretty early so I wouldn’t have to do the walk of shame when everyone woke up. We went to lunch later that day and agreed to fuck again the following night which we did. Over the course of the following months we regularly fucked and hung out but never dated. We were great friends with benefits but mutually knew we didn’t want to date one another. I still masturbate to the sex we used to have because he’s now back in America.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To cheer myself up
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? all of our friends knew because we kissed at parties sometimes and they didn’t really care. A few of the girls seemed jealous.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We had great chemistry and great sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? In hindsight, I wish we had dated at least for a little bit because only now I realise I felt more for him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love sex and casual sex has played a huge role in my life.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Keep it up
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