What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mediterranean
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Brighton UK
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Barista
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The ‘straight’ friend
How long ago did this hookup happen? Very recently
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had always been really good friends, and I always kinda thought he was gay, even though he always said (and to this day says) he’s straight. We had never hooked up before because of this presumed heterosexuality of his.
Before the hookup I thought he was someone else. I thought he was himself, a flamboyant straight person… the hookup really changed my opinion of him and made me realise shit.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began in my bed… we were having a sleepover, normal nice mates sleepover, nothing weird.
He gets in my bed and starts talking about his underwear and how he was hot… after a while he takes them off and asks me to, which i had no problem with, since nudity ain’t much of a deal for me.
I realized it wasn’t about nudity when he started to wank and suck me off and i could just tell he was enjoying it SO MUCH and probably had been waiting for SOOO long for this moment, which was happening all at the same time as affirmations such as ‘I’m straight tho, like this is what i do with friends really’.
IT DEFINITELY WASN’T PLANNED.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He basically just gave me a blowjob, which made him cum very vigorously after three seconds (he was masturbating while sucking my penis).
It felt good to have a ‘straight’ person be attracted to my body and wanting to sexually engage with me, but at the end when we both came, he wasn’t willing to admit maybe he’s bi and that just annoyed me. If you enjoy sucking dick so much you can’t help but come incredibly fast, you’re bi or gay man.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I hope he’ll admit stuff to himself. He’s a handsome footballer and i know it must be hard in the environment to be open about your sexuality, but he has to in a way. He can’t just keep going out with girls (which i know he’s not sexually active with) while secretly hooking up with a lot of guys… he’s putting people at risk, including himself.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more desirable, Power / Dominance, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends that know him… they seemed shocked like seriously like i was lying.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It’s going to sound superficial, but he is hot.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He’s just not ready to be openly gay.. but I’ve seen how much he enjoys it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little.
It’s never as casual as you think i guess.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? AAAWESOME!!!
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