What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? in television
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30-40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I didn’t know them before the hookup
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went for this party in a, now closed, techno club, famous international local based DJ was playing. I didn’t sleep because I had to work that day and the night before I met this girl with whom i later fell in love with for a small period.
I was with my gay friend in the club there and met my old classmate. Later on I started talking to this Persian guy, who was nice. Later on I had a flirt with this Surinam guy, and 10 minutes later I looked for him to kiss him. i went back to the dance floor, crazy dancing until it was morning. At the end of the party we decided to have an afterparty at my place, and I saw the Persian guy and invited him for my gay friend (he’s a bad flirter) and I saw the guy I had kissed and he had to go somewhere else, but he wanted to join. Sitting around a table drinking beers and smoking weed, my gay friend and my old schoolmate where becoming friends while smoking the weed. They never noticed that the Persian and Surinam where fighting for my attention.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The Surinam asked me to show him my room, so we went up and I showed it him. We started kissing and he pulled down my pants and said to give him a warm-up handjob. I pulled down his pants and started sucking on his dick. He said “Suck my black cock,” and this was an immense turn off. But i bent over the bed to let him penetrate me, but it didn’t go really well. We were both to fucked up on drugs and alcohol we quit and he went directly home. Coming downstairs with the 3 guys (my friend, schoolmate and Persian) they were just hanging there, chilling. The Persian wanted to know where to toilet was and I showed him it. He started kissing me and asked me to fuck him. I said i can’t get it hard, I already tried. So he asked me to pull down my pants and turn around, and he started licking my anus and it was amazing, but we stopped and he went home, and my 2 friends were still sitting at the table, just drinking but the bag of weed was empty by now.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was a great experience, the first time someone licked my anus and I loved it. I don’t have a lot of gay experiences anymore but I’m still open to it. The Persian, we are kind of friends because I liked him a lot.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, MDMA, ecstasy, molly, Ketamine, Speed (not meth but just normal amphetamine)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I’m not sure / I don’t know
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Everybody in my social friend group who are open to progressive sexual thoughts.
They loved the story.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? This weekend was crazy and this was the high peak, i learned this sexual pleasure then.
2 people fighting for you’re sexual attention.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Couldn’t get an erection
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I need more of this, but it doesn’t happen so often
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? All you hetero boys, try having sex with an other men, girls who kiss girls are horny but two boys kissings is ‘gay’ fuck that shit, just try it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? More casual sex, people are to closed sexually, a lot of casual sex with a lot of different partners is possitive mental and phisical health, humans are designed for that, by a god or nature, whatever you want.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Maybe it helps whith more opennes toward sexuality
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