What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Helsinki, Finland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Retail
What’s your current relationship status? I have “friends”, lovers and a beloved. Everybody knows about everyone, it is consensual non-monogamy/poly.
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Who knows how my sexuality will develop?
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50? I don’t count.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Window Washer
How long ago did this hookup happen? This morning
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a brown-eyed, bearded and freckled, small yet strong man. I met him through OkC where he was looking for a woman to serve. He said that he only wanted to clean for me, no sexual favours were necessary in return. Of course, I thought, if I’d like him I could use him for sex too. It took us a lot of cleaning and talking to get to sex, but here we are. Housework first, pleasure after – maybe!
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When he visited for the first time, he seemed nervous and cute. I thought it would be good for me to get in touch with my bossy side. I asked him about his preferences and it became clear that he has a foot fetish. I made him clean my place, give me massages, wash my feet, cuddle and show himself to me naked. After a few visits it was clear we both want it really bad, so I pulled him down to lick my cunt.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? This morning he came to wash my windows. We had had a little trouble in communication, he does not always trust my intellect and judgement in affairs not related to ours, which is a little irritating but I kind of understand it because as his mistress I need to be a little mysterious and I might not have told him enough about my life and reasoning. Our eyes connected, we kissed, but our hearts were not in sync, so I decided to ask about his everyday life as warm up.
I sat down in the living room to enjoy tea and showed him the window washing equipment I had prepared for him. He started with the windows while I tried my best to get comfortable. I giggled while I commented on his work and showed him places he could clean better. I touched him inappropriately. Soon it was all done. I told him to close the windows, leave the things, go to the bedroom and wait for me naked. I enjoyed the results of his work for a moment and went after him. I felt fine.
He was waiting naked, as he should, thus I took his hand and instructed him to lie on his back. I touched him: his face, chest, cock and nuts until he got hard. It did not take long. I used lubricant on him and rolled a condom on, and just by lifting my skirt I mounted him. It felt good after a long time. I gave him a pillow, and then I rubbed my clit while riding him. I was very expressive this time and finished soon with a moan.
As I leaned forward to catch my breath, he propped his legs up to fuck me from under. However, before he could make a thrust, I whispered “no” into his ear. A little bit of teasing ensued. I told him how amazingly satisfied I felt. After a moment I detached, took away the condom and told him to put on his clothes. He asked if he could at least give himself a hand.
I told him he could wank after giving me a foot bath. This is something he knows how to do well from practice. He brought me a glass of water too and the sensation of hot water in my feet and cold water in my throat was very pleasant. Later, I gave him a hand job. We cuddled and talked a little about refugees who are not able to reunite with their families. I encouraged him and he took a picture of my feet with his mobile phone before he left. His perfume was strong on my body. I’m a bit sensitive to strong smells so I wondered if forbidding the use of scents is something I should extend my power to.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He sent me some of the pictures he has taken of my feet. I feel like our relationship is balanced and we have reconnected after our communication issues. I hope this arrangement is beneficial for us both for a long time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Tea
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have not told about particular hookups, but I have told some people I have a “foot-fetishist cleaner sex-slave”-friend. People want us to come to clean their places too, however no dates have been settled.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Clean windows, relaxation, satisfaction.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we had a time constraint. That I was a bit yeasty and it affects my confidence. That his masculine perfume was so strong.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Everybody should be free to have consensual casual sex without judgement. I like casual sex but I also appreciate romance.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is awesome, keep up the good work 🙂
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