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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Milwaukee, Wisconsin
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? In a poly triad and not seeking more
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Unexpected Orgy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 48 hours

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup?

G: 29 My wife who is of Irish descent and has long red hair. She is shorter than me, wears glasses, and is plus sized.

BK: 25 My boyfriend, cleanly shaved today and has long black hair. He is slightly taller than me and also wears glasses.

M: 29 A woman with dark hair with recent purple highlights. She is curvy and I recently learned of Greek descent. My wife and I have had a crush on her for a while.

BS: 40 Shorter and with short hair. He has about the same body shape as me-skinny dad bod. He smiles this crooked smile when he’s enjoying company which was a lot this evening. My wife and boyfriend have had a crush on him for a while as well.

K: 37 Woman with short blonde hair with blue highlights. Wears glasses and has a nose ring. She has wide hips and is slightly taller than M. K is one of BS’s friends that the rest of us hadn’t met before.

J: He did not participate, but DJ’d from across the living room.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at BS’s house for naked movie night. We’ve gotten mostly naked before, which is enjoyable, but this was the first time anything more happened. Everyone was down to just their underwear (no bras) during the second (awful) movie, M told G and K she was interested in making out with them and asked if that was ok. They gave enthusiastic yeses. A few minutes in, she requested that they not be banished from the room. The guys (BK, BS, and I) enjoyed the sight while cuddling on another couch.
There was a break in activity after the movie ended and M and K rolled around on the floor getting each other off noisily while the rest of us watched. They rejoined us on the couch and I eventually found myself sitting between G and K. I believe G was being caressed by M and I was watching while K touched me gently. I touched back and we escalated our touches until I found myself kissing her and she found herself stroking my penis through my underwear. I asked if I should take them off and K did the same.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We paused and moved from the floor to the couch after placing the ottoman so that all 6 of us would fit. I laid against K’s side with BK at my back. She pressed against BS who had M on his other side. G faced us and alternated who she was leaning down to make out with. BK and I also kissed while he and K stroked me. K had BS in her other hand. I reached out past her and felt M’s soft hands as she was caressed by BS and G. G and I touched K’s clit and thighs to make her quiver and moan. I lost track of who was touching who and who was moaning. I saw M rise above us as she and BS fucked. G moved to K’s other side and touched both of us as we kissed deeply.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I feel a strange dissonance as I often look for a emotional connection and most of what I had done was with a stranger. I hope K is at future events and I hope to do things with M one day. Stranger is an inadequate term as I feel very connected, but also didn’t speak more than a few words till after we fooled around.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened, Only previously fluid bonded partners had sex.

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Intoxication, Making new friends, Everyone else was/is doing it, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We all congratulated each other on a successful movie night afterwards.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? New experience. I’ve never fooled around with a stranger or been in an orgy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It had to end because it was 3:30am.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’ve always supported the actions I took, this was just the first opportunity to practice what I preach.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? My wife G flirts more with M and BS online. I feel compersion, but am slightly jealous that I can’t do that with K.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? See above. I think it’s taboo for all the wrong reasons.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great site

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