by Dr. R
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 53
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Scientist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Swinger
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? K is a nurse working temporarily in my area. She is about 5’1″ medium build, small firm breasts, nice butt, long brown hair and a cute innocent face. My wife and I swing as a couple, and recently have started to “date” as singles. We both have several fuck buddies who we see every couple of weeks to monthly.
We met when I contacted her on the swinger site I’m a member of and she replied to my inquiry. We exchanged emails, and then lots of texts and a phone call. I was extremely excited to meet her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had exchanged texts for about a week and a half, plus had a phone call one evening. We talked about our sexual preferences, do’s and don’t’s etc. how we like to fuck, oral, grooming etc. We also talked about our work, and our common love of animals. The discussion was a combination of standard and exciting with lots of titillation. She told me that she was mild mannered, but transformed into a different alter-ego in bed, a totally different person. As I said, I was excited to finally meet in person. We chose a convenient Starbucks for coffee and tea for a mid day meeting and potential long “lunch”. We both said we were open to playing on the first date.
I got to Starbucks and bought her a tea and got myself a Frappuccino. She was a few minutes late. The store was very crowded, so we went outside to sit since we were going to talking intimately. I met her with a close hug and a kiss. She was dressed nicely, but very conservatively with jeans, sweater and boots. Once outside she whispered in my ear, “I already made my mind up, I want to play with you”. After a brief conversation, we went to my house, which was 10 minutes away.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once we arrived at my house, we came inside and immediately started to kiss deeply and make out. Just as she had told me she responded almost orgasmically to kisses on her neck and along the hairline. She seemed almost like a wild animal trying to escape from its cage. We quickly moved to the bedroom and got out of our clothes. She became wilder and more lustful with every single item that came off. Once she was nude I was all over her. I almost immediately put a condom on and started to fuck the shit out of her. She fought and struggled with me the whole time simultaneously fighting me and pulling me in. Then she started to scream and cum over and over. I can’t remember ever being so turned on. We ended up fucking for a long time while I alternated between slow sensual fucking, teasing thrusts, and hard pounding. All of it was met with unbridled enthusiasm by K.
I was finally tired and needed a break from fucking after 30-45 minutes. I immediately went down and ate her pussy. Again K was absolutely wild. I had to grab both of her arms for me to keep her still enough to stimulate her clit, while she came and came, screaming. Finally I put my fingers in her pussy and slipped another into her ass. This only turned her up. Finally she announced that she couldn’t take any more and needed to catch her breath.
After a few minutes of drinking water and talking K turned her attention to me. She laid with her head lying of the edge of the bed and had me fuck her mouth. I found that I couldn’t touch her because she would lose control and bite my cock. So I just focused on throat fucking her, which she absolutely and enthusiastically loved. Then we moved to where I could lie down and she sucked my cock until I unloaded into her mouth and throat. Afterward she moved up and we kissed and cuddled for a bit and talked getting to know each other better.
After a bit I started to play with her again. She asked me to get as many fingers as possible inside her. I ended up with almost fisting her buried up to my knuckles. She was so wet that my wedding ring slipped off and I caught it before it went in her. I also put a couple fingers in her ass which only turned her on more. My hard on was returning, so I put a condom on and fucked her one more time for 15-20 minutes. I only had to stop because I needed to get back to work.
We got dressed, kissed and hugged and thanked each other for an amazing experience.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? So far K and I have seen each other a couple more times in the last month with more in the future. Each hookup has been hotter and kinkier than the last. I’ve never felt the sort of physical chemistry with someone like I have with her. I find sex with her absolutely intoxicating. It is a very exciting and interesting feeling wanting someone so much while still being totally in love with my wife. My wife is in the same boat enjoying amazing sex with other men while we have never felt closer. I also have a couple of other girlfriends. Each of them is special in their own way. One is an amazing “girlfriend” who both my wife and I date, and whose company we both enjoy incredibly in and out of the bedroom. My other girlfriend is a close personal friend, who I love to fuck the shit out of. It has been a revelation having all these women in my life at once.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more confident, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My wife and some swinger friends, everyone was very positive.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I made a new fuck buddy who I have great physical chemistry with. She is also a very nice person who I hope can be a casual friend. The sex was extremely satisfying.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has made me more committed toward casual sex and feeling it is a wonderful experience
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Its been a good addition to my life
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fantastic
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