by Bornbest

Gender: Male
Age: 33
Race/ethnicity: African
Current location: Nigeria
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Experimental
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? An affair

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Well endowed and fun to be with person.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was on Whatsapp that we met, I got this message about her Dad’s funeral arrangements and I don’t have her on my contact, I commiserated with her. I later got another message after a day or two informing me of a change in plans as regards the burial arrangement. We kind of kept in touch through short chats and I got to know she was married with three kids, we both could not figure out how she got my number. Weeks passed and one day she informed me she will be in my town for a professional examination and we agreed to meet.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, we met at an eatery for the first time and the sexual tension was high. We kept chatting and it started getting sexually explicit. She demanded we meet again and I invited her to my friend’s place where we were working on a proposal. My wife put to bed our first child weeks before then, so I was not getting any sex at home. We kept chatting and gisting, I told my friend in a chat that I have to have a go at her, he was not comfortable with that but then, there was no stopping me.
She ask to use the bathroom and I knew this had to be it. I got to the room and when came out of the bathroom, we made out and eat her out and we ended up having a great sex, she was expressive and daring.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, we both did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I had to break off at some point to go buy condoms. My friend have didn’t any.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was sexual starved by reason of the fact that my wife just recently put to bed, and she had a tear, so it needed time to heal and then a willing partner came along.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I was sober but she had alcohol.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Well, it was an awesome experience digging someone’s wife. I tried to suppress the feeling of guilt that came with it. I honestly wanted it to be a one off thing, but she asked when we will be seeing next, I wanted to let it slip but she made it clear she is in it for a long time and dared me not to think it was a fling. I had to call it off after about a year, we hooked up severally after that but we are still very good friends but have kept the sex out.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend I was with the first we meet in person. He was a bit shocked to find out she was married though.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was both consensual and we wanted it.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not really, though I couldn’t just wish away the guilt that I was cheating on my wife and with a married woman.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is the fact that we were open to each other and knew how to keep it away from our partners till it ended. The worst was when we fell in love with each other, it was emotionally draining balancing it with my wife that I love so much too.
Nop, I still got involved with other women after her, but was careful not to allow feelings develop. Well, I feel an not disciplined enough not to stray from my matrimonial bed.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? She gave birth to a set of twins shortly after we stopped seeing, she assured my the are her husband’s, not mine.

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