What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years, 4 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on PoF. He was short (5’4″ MAYBE), dark and Asian. Back then, that was my bee’s knees. We went on a couple of dates in January 2011 and then lost touch. I thought he had an attractive face, nice eyes. I was mildly attracted to him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Fast forward to April 2011. I was feeling frisky and had no one in my immediate viewpoint that I wanted to fuck. I decided to text him just to see what would happen. Surprisingly (but not really), he replied within minutes and I mentioned cuddling rather quickly, knowing that was his previous MO. We set up a fuck appointment for the next day but it was still ambiguous because both of us lived with our families. We first tried to reserve a room at a hotel but he complained that it was too expensive. At this point, I didn’t care either way. With me, sex is not a super huge deal that I’ll become irate or angry if I don’t get any dick. If the logistics were too difficult to set up, I would easily forgo sex. Luckily, he had the house all to himself but only for a few hours. I followed him from the hotel to his house. I went into the house and he offered me some soju which I politely declined. I wanted to be completely lucid for this dick appointment AND I knew I’d be driving home rather soon. I didn’t plan on being there too long because a) his family was set to return soon and b) I didn’t like him *that* much.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We began to make out on his bed. We got undressed and he got some condoms out of his drawer. Ultra thin Trojans…my favorite! Funnily enough, I had the exact kind in my purse (Ultra thin or Bareskin Trojans have been long-time favorites). We made out a bit more and he fingered me, which felt really good actually. I remember I sucked him off for a few minutes (with his leg up in the air….wtf?). He did not go down on me but I wasn’t disappointed. I don’t want unfamiliar men/practical strangers putting their mouths on my nether regions.
Anyway, he fucked me and 4-5 pumps later, he came. He apologized about not having sex in “a long time” (like I cared?) I didn’t want to be a total asshole and get up and leave so we lied in bed and talked for about 15-20 minutes until he was ready to go again. We fucked in missionary and *attempted* dragon until I decided I was over it and told him I was going to go. While in the dragon position (me lying flat on my belly) he could not penetrate me. At this point, I told him I was done and ready to go home. He was a bit taken aback but responded OK overall. As I got dressed, he said “thank you” (awkward!) and said something about “if you are in the mood again, just let me know”. I responded politely but knew that there was a 90% chance I wasn’t going to see him again. The sex wasn’t even all that great but it wasn’t terrible either. It was a typical NSA booty call. Those are rarely anything special.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept in sporadic contact but he never had the house to himself and I am above fucking in a car. No proper logistics = no pussy for you!
A few months later (Sept. 2011), I saw him in the library at school and we made some small talk and hugged. That was the last time we ever saw each other or spoke.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Three of my closest friends. They were all supportive.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Him fingering me
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Him finishing too fast, not having his own place
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was liberating because I had sex with him just to have sex with him. This was one of the few times I didn’t catch feelings or have sex for validation.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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