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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourne
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? I’m a paralegal, going to law school next year
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Lustful and passionate, I like a bit of role play
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Work dinner turned hookup
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? White, tall, pretty muscular. That kind of arrogant massive smile a lotta guys have.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was at a work party, where out sister firm was presenting some awards and doing annual speeches for both firms and how its always great to be working together etc etc. It was a cocktail event and I tried to glam up because I have this stupid crush on my supervisor, so I was feeling pretty confident looks wise. When I get there, I’m introduced to Guy who’s one of the MC’s for the evening. We get a bit of banter going and I’m instantly attracted. After the main speeches my supervisor and a few of my colleagues are in a circle and Guy’s there so I go up and put myself into the conversation. I remember laughing at someones joke or something and looking up to find Guy staring at me so intensely I almost jump back. He looks a bit embarrassed but I smile and play along. The rest of the night we steal glances at each other. Then I’m sitting down listening to more speeches and he comes and touches my back and asks if he can sit at my table. Whilst we’re listening to the speeches I try and sneak looks at his package. I notice he casually puts his arm around my chair and whispers in my ear, “So what are your plans after this?” I try and play hard to get so I just smile into my drink. But it turns me on so bad, the way he’s so confident and feeling his breath in my ear. So I run my finger down his vest to just above his pantline and say something about a lazy night or something. The sexual tension during those speeches was absolutely crazy, I was insanely turned on. Afterwards to my suprise he goes and starts talking to other colleagues. Then the events over and he walks me to my car. I’m still trying to do that hard to get thing so I’m taking ages to open my car. He kind of puts his arm on one side of me and leans so close to me and tells me he thinks I’m sexy. The car door then swung open and we were on the backseats pretty quickly.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? In the car we were making out for a pretty long time and I’ve gotta say- he was a superb kisser. But before I even had my clothes off he kind of pushed me back and asked if I wanted to go to his place. At his apartment we did it on his kitchen table which has been a life long sex bucketlist dream I’ve always had. Guy was AMAZING at eating me out. His tongue felt so strong and he really worked my clit. Best I’ve ever felt and I can still remember how I arched my back. He was really vocal when I gave him a blowjob which I LOVE- lots of swearing and groaning. The sex was me on top for a bit and then he finished off in missionary.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning wasn’t awkward but the sexual tension had kind of died- which sucked. However we did become fuck buddy’s for the following month. Each time was great but none beat that first magical night. We mutually ended it after a month because my ex had come back into the picture and he wanted to pursue another girl. I do miss those phone calls though when we organised to see each other- which would turn me on so much at work and I could just picture him in between me.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My girlfriends and my mum- which sounds strange haha! But I have a close relationship with her. Just told her I was seeing someone not that he was a fuck buddy
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sexual tension before the hookup and the sex that well lived up to my expectations.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The following hook ups were never as good as the first time.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nah
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Guy was probably my first fuck buddy experience. And I really enjoyed it. Having a sex life that didn’t have a relationship made me feel pretty powerful, I have to say.
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