by 1nightAnd…

Gender: Female
Age: 40
Race/ethnicity: Black
Current location: Tulsa
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Municipal consultant
Relationship status: Divorced
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

1NiteAnd?

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I just commented on how well dressed he was. He was way young. Way young. I thought he was gay bc he was dressed so nicely. He invited me to have a drink. I offered to drive. He hinted at going to my place, I deflected. Another drink at another place then his place. It was enjoyable, wonderful. It was 530a when I left. Oh my. I tricked myself into replaying the night in my head for days on end. Bad idea. There’s no and…with a one night stand.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I guess he was the instigator. When reliving the events, it seems that he must have had a plan. I had no idea until he was undressing me. Started when we met at a weird Christmas party.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We talked about so many things in those hours. I was surprised and impressed with his package. I was expecting the actual act to be lame because of the way he kissed. Not a good kisser, at all. But fun to talk to. He cussed a lot which was weird to me. He was a bit immature which I attributed to his youth.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did, he didn’t which was puzzling to me. Idk, weird. Why does that happen?

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He had plenty of condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was swept up. I didn’t know what hit me. I was pleasantly surprised.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol. Two drinks each.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had hopes that he didn’t. I texted a couple of times and called a couple of times. He responded with “I’m a ladies’ man and not a lady’s man”.  Lmao! Ha!

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Twitter. No-one, yet.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes we consented.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? A little because I have questions of him. I just want to talk.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The intimacy was the best and conversation. The worst was knowing that there would be no more. I knew it. I don’t know why I let myself think otherwise.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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