by Carmen

Gender: Female
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: United States
What’s the highest education you have received? Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Protestant Christian
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

1st Mexico

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, handsome Mexican boy, 24, music student. I was researching in a town in Mexico full of college students this summer and really wanted a good hookup. I went to his band’s concert at an art gallery and mentioned to my friend that I thought he was cute, so she introduced us. I didn’t know him well at all, because my Spanish wasn’t great and his English wasn’t great.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We walked up to the roof of the gallery, and, after talking for a bit, he kissed me. I then mentioned that I had my own room, and we waved goodbye to our friends and caught a taxi. In the taxi he asked about protection, and I said I already had some. After having some mezcal in the kitchen, I took him into my room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was an extremely uneventful hookup. We made out, I gave him a little bit of oral and he was extremely…vocal in response. I was shocked at how small he was, I must confess. And then we had sex, which I don’t remember terribly well, but I remember it was great. We then talked for a bit and did it again. We just made strange small-talk in broken English, where we’re from, where there’s a good gym, when I return to the United States. He then left because I have a tiny bed and he needed to return home.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom both times.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to have sex.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? He was drinking some beer the whole set and had a glass of mezcal, and I had drank about 2.5 glasses of strong mezcal and a glass of beer.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Though he said he would, he never called me back. I sent him a text the next day and never replied from him. This was my first time having vaginal sex with a total stranger. I found him on Facebook and believe he has a girlfriend. I felt terrible that I allowed him to cheat on his girlfriend, but my friends comforted me and told me that I couldn’t have known.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to several of my friends who are girls. My friend from Mexico just rolled her eyes and said “Ugh, Mexicanos. You didn’t see his girlfriend.” My other friends just told me I couldn’t have known.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret that I didn’t make sure he was single.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best was that I had a one-night stand experience with a very attractive boy. The worst is the guilt because he had a girlfriend. It was also passionless sex. When I have casual sex in the future, I would like it to be with somebody I know and planned.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

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