by Cassidy

Gender: Male
Age: 56
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian/american
Current location: Rural Pennsylvania
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Small business owner
Relationship status: In a heterosexual relationship
Religious affiliation: Protestant
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Swinger
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

1st MFM Experience

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Internet swingsite posting

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My girlfriend of three years who is attractive and well put together 54 year old.  When we started dating three years ago I was up front and explained that I was active in the swing life style.  We have slowly explored it as a couple since.  The other person was a single male who is also active in the lifestyle.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On a swingers website posted our desire to hook up with a couple or single male on a swinger’s website.  As no couples responded to our “hotdate” we selected a single male.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were on a 36 hour road trip get away. We met the single male at a designated bar for a beer and to check him out. Once we validated him we returned to our hotel where he met us.  We got down to business right away with my girl friend giving me a blow job. Once he got hard she proceeded to suck on him while I went down on her.   We then proceeded to have vaginal sex with her. When the opportunity presented itself I took pictures with his permission.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? While I came the other two did not as the condom without lube took away from the experience.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? The single male used a condom for vaginal penetration.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Our goal is to experience DP with a single male in a MFM hookup.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A few beers.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The three of us chatted a bit and agreed to get together if he was in our area on business. He appeared to be intrigued by the prospect of participating in a DP encounter.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? While I talked to no one my girlfriend discussed it with her best friend.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: That it flowed smoothly.  Worst: We forgot lube.  While I believe my girlfriend had reservations that having vaginal sex with another person would affect our relastionship it has not had any impact.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? It is important for a couple to approach the swing life style openly together as one’s hidden agenda can hurt a relationship.

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