by Miss K
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? JHB – South Africa
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Business Analyst
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Rampant but sensual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The 2 a.m. Visitor
How long ago did this hookup happen? About 5 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Mr C is a tall, blonde and athletically built guy with a big smile and delicious lips. We met on Tinder and established that we were both not looking for anything serious. We arranged to meet at a public place on a Sunday (as a safety precaution for me) and that we would most likely end up going back to my place for sex. Some steamy sexting during the week made me so horny that I barely slept that entire week. I was excited to meet him!
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I spent a chilled Friday night at home and received a message on Tinder (well after midnight) from Mr C asking if I was still awake. We were both very horny…. I decided I could not wait until the Sunday for him so I texted him my home address. I occupied myself by shaving my legs and choosing something to wear while he was on the way to me – this was by far one of the riskiest things I have ever done!
He arrived at my house at about 2:00 am that morning and boy were we nervous! We decided to have a (alcoholic) drink to calm ourselves down a bit instead of launching in which I nervously scrounged around for. At one point, I felt him behind me reaching for a bottle I was too short to get and I suddenly felt excited (and wet) that I would be having sex with him that night. We sat on the couch with our drinks and started chatting. We both started easing up and I felt comfortable with him quickly. I started getting impatient so I asked him if he wanted to make out and that’s where things started to get heated….
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started kissing on the couch and immediately his hands were all over my thighs going higher and higher up so I got up he followed me, kissing me all the way to my bedroom. I remember being agonizingly horny as I started to undress him… He realized I cheekily wasn’t wearing any underwear underneath my nightie and started fingering my already wet and swollen pussy… We got each other completely naked and ended up on the bed, his head between my legs. He licked my pussy and alternated using his fingers and tongue in me, it didn’t take me long to come when he stroked me from the inside with his finger and was sucking hard on my clit…
He got on top of me and started rubbing his dick against my wet lips torturing me into wanting more. I kept urging him to put on a condom which he eventually did and he finally thrust his big dick inside of me. We fucked missionary style and again, it did not take long for me to come…
Wanting to return the favor, I got on top of him but we started having trouble keeping the condom on which was killing the mood… We had a quick chat about the last time we were tested and I felt safe to continue without a condom… So I got on top of him and rode him until we both came, really loving the feeling of him throbbing and oozing inside of me… We earned a bit of a break after that…
We continued to fool around, kiss, touch, lick and have sex throughout the night. I managed to get him to come again in my mouth while I jerked him off and sucked him dry. We eventually went to sleep just before it started to get light out…
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He stayed over that night and we had sex again that morning and even showered together. We hooked up a few times that weekend (even after a date I had!). We continued to hook up for a few months and got on very well as friends. We were honest with one another and that worked for us both.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some friends – they are happy if I am happy
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It led to some pretty fantastic sex and experimentation for me
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that it ended
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No – I have always been all for it provided it is safe and consensual
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I believe that casual sex, like anything addictive, exists to fill some sort of emotional void where a person feels they may be lacking. What is healthy about having sex instead of taking in substances like alcohol and drugs are that it forces you to be present in that moment, away from your thoughts and woes.
Apart from the fact that it is exciting and that sex feels good, sex is a physiological need and outside of the confines of a committed and monogamous relationship – it is difficult to get that same level of emotional and physiological satisfaction. So I am all for it… it made a positive difference for me at the time but unfortunately not enough because the void is still there until it gets filled “organically”.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it – some of the stories really gets my panties wet!
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