by Jay

Gender: Female
Age: 26
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: NYC
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Freelance Social Media Manager
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Heteroflexible
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

6 A.M.

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-Night Stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? His name was Joe. Older, either late twenties or early thirties. Tallish…medium build. Sandy brown hair. Sort of a bro. I met him that night, he was the roommate of my best friend’s co-worker. The four of us were going out to bars that night and upon meeting him I knew we were going to hookup. Just had a feeling.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My best friend’s co-worker and Joe (his roommate, who I hooked up with) invited us back to their apartment at the end of the night. We started the night there as well, it was very close to the street where the bars were. Once everyone was ready to fall asleep I pretty much walked into his room and pounced.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Initially he declined hooking up because he said I was too drunk. I persisted but he stood his ground. We went to sleep and then woke up at around 6 am and starting kissing. The sex was vanilla, missionary, short. His dick was small. I didn’t enjoy it besides the thrill of it being my first one-night stand and my second sexual partner. Also, I was on my period.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t, he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom. I believe I asked him if he had been tested.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Had recently gotten out of my first relationship, had only had sex with one person at that point, it was summer and I was turned on.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol. A lot.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He gave me a ride home and gave me his business card, which seemed super weird and hilarious to me since I was a college Freshman. It still seems weird actually. So formal. I felt adventurous and carefree. I wasn’t planning on seeing him again, he attempted to hang out with me again but I wasn’t interested. Now, no feelings.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Realizing that casual sex is okay and fun.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I wish the sex had been better, although I was still a bit drunk/sleepy and pretty inexperienced at the time.

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