Location: Los Angeles
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual not Religious
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-Night Stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is tall, scruffy, disconnected, nice lips and green eyes. He smokes and smokes often and his style is a mix of NYC blacks and LA casual. He’s sexy because he’s aloof. My ex is dating his best girlfriend, we all run in the same group, I met him at a party. Didn’t trust him because he knew my ex’s new girl really well. But he kept reaching out to me and eventually we hung out – a bike ride on the beach where conversation was casual and flowed and we both laughed about dating in a big city like LA and all the silliness that ensues. I didn’t get the feeling that he liked me as he brought up girls he was dating and I told him about guys I had dated and a few silly stories, and we split the bill on the snack we stopped for at a local restaurant. I thought he was sexy as fuck but put him in the “friends only” category.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We shared a cab to a bar and on the way he told me about a girl he was supposed to meet there who he really didn’t want to see and I told him about a bad first date I had just went on. We separated when we got to the bar, I went and found my friends and he found his and we would pass each other by every once in a while and smile and laugh and maybe dance for a minute or two before moving on into our perspective circles of people. Around 1:45am he tapped me on the shoulder and said he was leaving, so if I wanted to get a cab home I should come with him then. I said bye to all my friends and left with him. In the cab we were silent and sat on opposite side of the car with the middle seat empty. I leaned my head into the middle section to watch the road and he leaned his next to me. I looked at him from the corner of my eye and then turned back to the road. He kissed me. Out of nowhere, his lips were on mine and I heard myself say, “whoa, wait… what?” but I kept kissing him because it felt amazing and he was sexy and the chemistry was insane.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out the whole way home in the cab and then as soon as we walked into his house he sat me on top of the kitchen island and we made out more and my jacket and top came off. We went into his room and stripped and he went down on me. Fuck. He was amazing at that. I felt like I was doing something I wasn’t supposed to, with him knowing my ex’s new girlfriend and all, but at the same time, FUCK IT because it’s a free world and I didn’t owe anyone anything. The chemistry was insane. Out of this world good sex. I wasn’t drunk, either, so it actually was THAT good. I came twice. Needless to say, he was fucking amazing. We laughed at what happened and he said he kissed me because, “you gave me a look in the taxi.” We took a quick shower and then went to sleep, but we fucked again in the middle of the night because he couldn’t keep his hands off me. Finally slept and then woke up and gave him a quick neck massage, and he kissed me sweetly and told me to have a good day. I let myself out and walked the two blocks back to my house.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None. No.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Impulse. It felt good. Chemistry. Sensuality. The experience.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None on my end. He may have been drunk but he didn’t act like it nor did his breath smell like it.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I left, texted him later the next day and asked him how his day was, he responded and reciprocated the questions. I felt like it was an amazing hookup, I’d like the sex to happen again but I can’t see a future happening between us because of how close he is to my ex’s new girlfriend. Talk about awkward group hangouts! I have no expectations for the future – expectations are the death of contentment, I strive to never have expectations for anyone or anything. I feel like he’s a friend I had sex with, who I want to fuck again because it was so good. I don’t want anything more.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told my best friend who knows him and she laughed. She didn’t have a negative reaction, just surprised at his behavior out of the blue.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets!
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best was how sensual and amazing it was. The worst was that it would be awkward if others in our group found out about it. Hasn’t changed how I think about sex, but reminded me how impulsive I can be.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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