by Radek


Gender: Male
Age: 31
Race/ethnicity: Jewish
Current location: Warsaw
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
Occupation: Butcher
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual

A Complete Accident

How long ago did this hookup happen? This summer

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Acck

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a girl, blond, little fluffy, totally wasted. I didn’t even like her very much. I met her in front of the bar, I was drinking.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I came back from England where I have been working for 4 years. My friends organized a big pub welcome-back party. We were in several pubs, 10 guys without wives. We ended up in a disco-bar, where I didn’t have too much fun. I had a few more shots and told the rest of my friends I’m going home to kiss my wife, it could be like 2 AM. I saw that girl sitting on the sidewalk next to some park and crying. She seemed to be in trouble and made me a little worried. I approached her to ask if everything was OK and if she needed help. She didn’t reply. So I sat next to her and tried to touch her just to have a reply that she was OK. Instead, she stared to touch me and kiss me. She called me Tomasz which is not my name and she told me she always loved me. It was like a bad movie scene I promise. I was pulling her away telling her I haven’t been the one, she was thinking. I promised her to take her into a cab and drive her home. But instead she was touching me harder and harder and her hand somehow found the way in my pants. Against my will, I was more and more aroused and it had been very difficult to insist on her not to do it. She pushed me to some bush in the park and started to give me an oral.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once blowjobbed and aroused I set myself into the what-the-hell mode. We had vaginal and anal which I always wanted to try but my wife was never into it. Finally I came during the anal.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes I did, I think she also had one, during the anal just about me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No, it was not a time for doing that.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I don’t even know, I really think it was an accident.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I was pretty drunk, she was even more than me I suppose.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was so shocked what just happened, that I left her in the bush, ran away and went home to my wife. She was asleep, so I joined her.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To nobody.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For me it was semi-consensual. Firstly I didn’t wanted it to hapen but once happening, I didn’t prevent. I think the other side could have it the same, she realized I was somebody else than she thought during the sex, but continued.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes I do, I didn’t wanted that, just my lust won on me.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: I finally tried anal which I always wanted.
Worst: Everything else.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

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