by Alea

Gender: Woman
Age: 31
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Spain
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Journalist
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Different Nap

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him through a website. We had been talking about one month before. One week before the hookup, we met in person, and I felt so attracted to him. He is tall, sturdy, with black hair and a good beard. I guess he felt the same way, because that day when we said goodbye, we started to kissing inside the car. But that day I wasn’t in the mood for having sex. So after that, I just said goodbye and left him in the car. But I knew I had to see him again

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After that, I was worried because I didn’t know if he would like to see me again. But that night, we keep talking and one week later I was sure that I wanted to have sex with him. Because our jobs, it was a little bit difficult to date. But one Monday I had some free hours after lunch, so I told him and we met. He picked me up in a train station and we went to his house. I was really nervous, but he was very funny, and I began to relax. Also we began to talk about the things we liked from each other when we met, and it was really hot hearing that things aloud.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we arrived to his house, we spoke a little. But quickly we went to his room, and started kissing. He thought I would be more comfortable with the lights off, but I asked him to kept them on. 

I don’t know why, but I felt very safe and comfortable with him all the time, despite we met just some weeks before that. He knew what he was doing, and was doing it pretty well. We both had oral sex, and also vaginal sex. When we finished the first time, I was satisfied, but I wanted to repeat. With no words, he began to touching me, and suddenly he showed me a vibrating ring, and made me have a second orgasm. After that, he put the ring on, and we began to have sex again. 

At the end, I think I had four orgasms. It was a very long time I didn’t find someone that makes me feel that way. But we had to stop it there, because I had to go back to work, and he also had met some friends.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I haven’t had sex for months and I like him so much when we met

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt so good after that hookup. I spent a great time, but I guess I liked something more after that day. Unfortunately, we kept talking a few weeks after that, but finally, we haven’t met again

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked about that with a friend. She understands me, so I don’t feel bad for that.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, both of us

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret anything about this hookup. I was very comfortable and confident all the time, and I spent a great time

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I guess the best was that connection to know what we wanted from the other without speaking.

The worst, there wasn’t a second time 🙁

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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