What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Belgium
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student/janitor
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? heteroflexible
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
A fellow student
How long ago did this hookup happen? about 18 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was exploring my sexuality (being a young naive student) and met him through a website for hook-ups in Belgium. He was 2 years jounger and very good-looking. Long curly hair, slim, slightly muscular build, brown eyes. He was very much into skateboarding and was dressed as such, with a hoodie, sneakers, etc.
He was also looking for a young guy to exlore his sexuality with, but unlike me had no experience whatsoever.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We chatted back-and-forth a couple days, and with a certain trust set, he asked if I was available the upcoming weekend. I had nothing to do, so replied where he wanted to meet. His parents (as he still lived at home) were gone, so we’d be all alone. The day came, I went to his house, we talked a bit in his kitchen about our lives, getting to know the other person a bit. He was quite nervous, and the friendly talk seemed to relax him.With him being at ease, we decided to go to his room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He wanted to see my dick first before continuing any further. I was already hard in anticipation, so when I showed him, he was impressed by it and told me he wanted to go on. We got undressed, sat on his bed and touched each others dicks. He was big down there, so there was lots to play with. After a few minutes he told me he wanted to try oral. He started sucking me first, but I grabbed his cock a few seconds later and we gave each other oral in a 69 position. This went on for 20 minutes before I came. He said he wanted to swallow, so I came in his mouth. A minute later he also came in my mouth and I swallowed too.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards we rinsed our mouths, talked a little on his bed and eventually got dressed. We told each other we had a great time and I went on my way. He texted me a couple months later his parents would be gone again for a weekend and if I wanted to hook up again. Unfortunately, I couldn’t that weekend and haven’t heard from him since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Everyone else was/is doing it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Another guy I hooked up with a while later. He found the story arousing and because of that I had a great time with that guy too.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Meeting a fellow student who also wanted to experiment a bit while being young, sharing the same views on sexuality. And for his first time, he could give oral like the best of ’em.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, on the contrary. It made me see there are a great bunch of people wanting to explore same sex experiences without immediately being labeled ‘gay’. To me, this was purely to have fun and be young, and he shared that same view on the matter.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex, especially same sex experimenting, is (finally!!) being accepted more and more into our society. But it has a lot of ground to cover still. People are viciously fast with comments, calling someone gay, slut, lesbian, etc simply for not living life by their standards. There are platforms for people to meet and hook up, but telling those stories freely to friends and family can be most difficult, because of a big chance for someone to not agree with that choice and be judgemental.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great initiative, can’t wait to hear more about it! Kinda a Masters & Johnson like undertaking; exploring a big topic of human sexuality.
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