by Rolf

Gender: Male
Age: 24
Race/ethnicity: Latin
Location: Argentina
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Musician
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

A Friend Of My Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? A couple months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is like 5’5″ ft tall. Black hair, brown eyes. A thin woman, a good body, not the best I’ve had sex with, but I like it anyway. I didn’t know her at all when I first met her – just a couple of hours talking before. I have never done something like this before, so I didn’t know how it was going to be. I think I was a little nervous, but I acted like if I was the most self-assured man in the world.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It all began at a friend’s birthday party. A friend of him sent him a text saying she was going to give him his “‘birthday present’. “I’m with Rolf”, he said. “No problem, I’m with a friend too, the four of us can have a little fun”, she replied. But for some reason we didn’t meet. Anyway, I asked as a friend on Facebook, we talked for a while, and two or three days later I told her to come home. She said yes, and so it happened. When she came home, I still wasn’t sure if I wanted to do it. I’ve had a recent separation with the one who had been my girlfriend for more than two years, and I still loved her.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When she got home, we didn’t talk as if we was going to have sex immediately. We talked as if we were a lifetime friends. When the night came, we had a dinner, and then we laid at my bed to watch a movie. We never knew how it ended. I began kissing her neck, then her lips. She caressed my skin, and then lowered her hand. She took off my pants and began masturbating me. I took off her shirt, her bra, and kissed her tits. Then, she came over me, got my penis and penetrated herself into her vagina. I told her to put a condom, because I wasn’t sure if she was STI clean. And that was it. Pretty boring. I had an orgasm, she had hers, but that was it. The first one. The second time we met, it was really great. We had sex all night long. We introduced oral sex, she got an orgasm when I licked her vagina, and I had an orgasm too when she sucked my penis. We explored many poses, but I think I was doing the most of the job. We met a three or four more times, but it gets more sexually boring everytime.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condom every time we met. I don’t want surprises at all. We discussed STI after the first time we met. She was clean, and so was I.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I ended a two years relationship, I was feeling pretty sad, but also I wanted sex, and she was a way to have it. There’s no other reason.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We didn’t take alcohol or drugs the first time. We don’t drug ourselves, but the other times we met we had a little beer – a bottle, maybe.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The first time I felt very sad. I still loved my ex, so I was thinking of her very much. The other times I met her, I was feeling that a little less. Anyway, now I don’t want to meet her anymore as a sexual partner. I think there’s no chemistry between us in bed.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked about this to a friend of mine, the one of the birthday party. He knew about my story with my ex, so he asked me about my feelings… and of course, how the sexual experience was!

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I wanted it to happen, but it WAS. I don’t want it anymore. She liked it to, as she says, but it’s common to her to do this. She’s got some other friends-with-benefits.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I actually do. Not for what happened, but I think I don’t like her. I like another kind of woman, and she’s to me more like a true friend.|

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I must admit something: this hookup made me more self-assured to other women. I learnt that if I’m self-assured, the world is mine.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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