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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Berlin
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Physiotherapist
What’s your current relationship status? Was engaged and its now looking complicated
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My dads best friends brother (I know). He’s 50, divorced with a son and works as a dentist. My family has this family we are super super close with and we spend almost all celebrations together. This guy (Lets call him Dave), would come to the major ones e.g christmas ever since I was little. He’s pretty attractive and has glasses and stubble which I love.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I moved to Berlin a few years ago to pursue my second degree in physiotherapy but come back to London sometimes. It was after my dads 57th birthday and we were all staying in the holiday house which is in the country. After dinner one night everyone went outside to smoke and drink and usually I would leave them to it but this time I joined them and actually had a good laugh. Everyone started to filter out to bed until it was just me and Dave. We shared a joint and another beer and then he asked if I ever thought of fucking him. I always thought he was pretty sexy for an older guy but never had actually thought of having sex with him. I hesitated- thinking of my fiance- and ending up downing some more drink and sitting on his lap.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral and vaginal + dirty talk. We moved to his bedroom which he had downstairs and luckily my dad an step mum and brothers were sleeping in rooms on the top floor. Since it was the heat of the moment we were tearing at each others clothes and I had to stop both of us and ask him to slow down. In that moment when we both stood breathing heavily I realised the gravtias of what I was doing but had so many pent up emotions about me and my fiance I threw myself back into it. I sucked his dick and he fingered me but it was the dirty talk I loved. I asked him if he liked it while I rode him and he said “yes, you dirty little slut”. I called him a big boy and told him I loved his dick inside me and he spanked my ass.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup we lay in bed before I went back to my room and cried myself to sleep. I called my fiance several times but he didn’t pick up. I never wanted to see Dave again and I wanted to go back in time and undo it because the orgasm wasn’t worth the trouble I’d caused.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my fiance when I got back from England. I made it out like I was so drunk I was almost passed out and I blamed it on the fact he had kissed a girl a few weeks ago (he had) and I was trying to get even (obviously it isn’t the same thing, I know). He screamed at me then went to stay with his mate. We talked a few days later and he calmed down and said he needed time to think but he didn’t want to break it off.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? the obvious 🙂
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fucking someone
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
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