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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 59
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? none
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 125
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Helping Hand

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was blonde, about 120 lbs, with a cute face and a tight body. She was about 5’6″. We talked for 3 months before the first hookup. We met at a football game and it felt like we would be great in bed together.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At a motel, we had talked about what we would like to do to each other

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Since everything was planned we wasted little time and got busy right away with some oral then on to vaginal. It was great as if we had been together for a long time. We talked about the experience and the future hookups.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We made plans since we felt good about the encounter. She was in a relationship so we knew we had to take it slow. She has since married and although I would still hook up with her, I have not pressed the issue.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was great and she hooked me up later with two of her friends

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was a great experience and my first interracial hook up

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? nothing

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? good imput

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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