Current location: USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: Business owner
Relationship status: Married
How religious are you? Somewhat
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
A Long Time Coming
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? friends with benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My hookup was a childhood friend from the 6th grade. A “boyfriend” if you will, even though we were like 10 years old.. We were young kids that kissed occasionally and were crazy about each other. He would always write me little love notes and would stare at me across the classroom everyday.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Cut to 19 years later, June 2015, I receive a Facebook friend request from someone whose name I didn’t recognize. (He decided to use a fake one so people at work could not look him up. However, I did recognize the face. I was happy to receive a request from him considering that I was thinking about him months before. Curious as to where he was and how how was doing. A few days later he sent me an inbox saying “hey”. We talked about our current situations, me married and him with a girlfriend. We talked for about 20 minutes and that was it that day. He hit me up the very next day I could tell really wanting to chat. We talked for the next few days and he began talking very sexual in our conversations. About how he wished we were married instead and what he wanted to do to me. He and I agreed that we wanted to be together physically and would see how a friends-with-benefits situation would work. He also asked me if I thought that if we had sex, if I felt that any feelings would come into play. I told him “no” and not to even think about that. We agreed to meet up to see each other. When I got to his house I already knew what was about to happen.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Although I was feeling guilty for even being there in the first place, I was excited to rekindle what we once had. We started making out and before I knew it I was on my back with him removing my panties with him smiling and saying “lets get rid of these.” He proceeded to go down on me and it was amazing. I made sure we used protection considering we did not know each others’ history sexually. I think because we were both so nervous we held back a lot but still enjoyed the sex the first time. We have had sex 3 times in the last 3 months. The 3rd time (one week ago) was absolutely amazing mainly because we were so comfortable with each other. He ripped my pants off literally and gave me amazing oral sex in which was so good I was pulling away from him in which he kept aggressively pulling me back to him. It was intense and very hot. After sex, he leaned over and kissed me in my forehead, which is very endearing to me.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? This third time yes. We had sex for 2 hours and we both orgasm-ed numerous times.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used several condoms.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We still had feelings for each other and were sexually attracted to one another despite our situations.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hooking up, he kept inboxing me on FB about how he felt about me and how he wished I was his wife instead. The last time we had sex he whispered to me softly that “This was supposed to be his for the last 19 years.” It’s been a week since our last sexual encounter and since I don’t like to wear my emotions on my sleeve, I have been avoiding him because I have feelings for him now and I don’t want to. I have been trying to keep it cool. He and I both are waiting for the other person to initiate a conversation since we both don’t want to come off needy or clingy.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. My mother is the only person that knows of him and that he is my friend but not that we have had sex 3 times.. She tells me to be careful since I have a family.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was definitely consensual.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes and No. Yes because I have a husband and no because my husband has cheated himself and also I really am into my friend with benefits.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is that we both were sexually attracted to each other and wanted it just as bad as the other person.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? We are still talking and plan to have sex again. I however feel like I want to make this the last and final time and just continue on as good friends.
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