by Cassidy

Gender: Male
Age: 56
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian/american
Current location: USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: small business owner
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Protestant
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

A Lump Is Discovered

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I first met Anna when we were both teenagers.  As adults she was married to a friend.  They had issues and divorced.  When Facebook became popular she friended me.  Occasionally she would shoot me a private message or call to ask computer tech advice which led to personal conversations.  I was reluctant to get involved with her because I understood she had a drinking problem and was not mentally stable.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She started inviting me to her place to visit and have a beer.  One night I took her up on her offer.  That evening was strictly a visit.  Then I started power tripping over the idea of having her: a person that I knew as a teenager who was married to a mutual friend. More importantly it was also my understanding that my son had banged her daughter.  So to have her was like a personal conquest.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We sat at her computer desk drinking and chatting while I cleaned it up.  It was late at night and she had a flannel shirt and lounging slacks on.  One shared tid bit of chat led to another and she revealed that she had had two affairs with men I knew after she had split from her husband. Finally I asked her to show me her breasts.  She was surprised and reluctant as she had gained weight from her drinking.  Finally she unbuttoned shirt and revealed her boobies.  I felt then suckled.  I then placed her hand on my erection that was still in my pants.  One thing led to another and we ended up in her bed.  She was eager to be loved.  Afterwards we were laying in her bed and she placed my hand on her breast an asked if I felt the lump.  I did.  I encouraged her to get checked out.  I continued to encourage her for several weeks.  Finally she did.  It was cancerous.  While she wanted to get together for another romp before her bi lateral mastectomy our schedules did not allow it.  She continues to receive treatments.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I came inside of her after I gave  her an orgasm after going down on her.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No precautions against STI which was stupid.  Pregnancy not an issue as she was post menopausal.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was a power trip for me to have the mother of  a daughter who my son had.  In hindsight perhaps she wanted to be loved and felt like a woman before addressing the lump.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We each had a few beers.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept in contact and I encouraged her to get checked out and deal with the cancer.  Since her operation and treatments we are merely Facebook friends.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have told no one.  Fortunately none of our mutual friends including the two men she had affairs with have mentioned anything to me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I believe that it was consensual for both of us.  Though she was disappointed that I awoke and left her place in the middle of the night.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? That we hooked up and I encouraged her to get her lump checked out. Since then I have had another woman whose daughter my son had had.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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