by arizona

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Current location: Germany
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? I love having sex with men, always wanted to have sex with women as I think they are attractive as well
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? A month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him randomly through okcupid when I still lived in another city and scrolled through my mates in my hometown. I texted him because I thought he looked attractive plus I liked his taste in music. It is really hard for me to find people who attract me like A LOT, but for some reason he does. He is very tall (compared to me, I’m 1.60cm or 5ft2), has soft brown hair, fit body type, very young but handsome face. He is my age and I usually hook up with people older than me, so that was kind of unusal for me. Honestly before I met him I thought that he was way too cool and attractive for me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As I mentioned I met him at okcupid. Asked him if we wanted to have a drink or something sometime. Didn’t happen. A few months later when I moved back I texted him again, because why not, and made plans but didn’t meet.  I mostly tried to arrange a date (even though I didn’t know really why, maybe it was some kind of boredome).After a few weeks I texted him after I was out drinking for a spontaneous hook up and he said yes, maybe because he was drunk as well.  We met up at his place, then we talked a little about ourselves and then we wanted to go to bed, just “sleeping”. I undressed myself, put on a shirt he gave me for sleep, cuddled up in bed and then we just started making out after he said he had to get up really early because his parents are coming to visit.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As I said, we just started making out. Kissing and touching eachother. I really liked how he kissed me. We ripped our clothes off and he went down on me. Kisses. Then I gave head to him. Afterwards he fingered me shortly, then put on a condom and fucked hard me from behind, choking me. He pulled my hair. It kind of clicked, we are both into very rough and hard sex and I was super surprised of how good he was. I usually don’t experience men that young with such a high confidence in what they are doing during sex. After he came the second time we cuddled a little, I spooned him and then we just fell asleep and I stayed overnight. Even in the morning he wanted to cuddle with me, made out a little again until I had to leave because of his visitors.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t have an orgasm, but I rarely have. He came twice.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom, but didn’t talk about our STI history.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was out with friends and as they went home I was still wide awake and my drunken mind just texted him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We both had been drunk, but to the point that we still know what we are doing.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt pretty good after the hookup, but as usual I feel a bit down some hours afterwards. Still don’t know why. Maybe because getting close with people like this is still a bit intense for me even though I enjoy it. I kind of wished we would hook up again, but I didn’t think he would. I still thought he was very attractive and someone I would like to get to know better. Some days later he texted me saying he was suprised and then we could hook up again. Since then we met up 3 times again and I enjoyed them all, even though I think he kind of gets bored of me. We will see what will happen next.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t tell anyone about it.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I kind of regret it, kind of not. I like him as a person and I like meeting and hooking up with people, so it was a fun experience. Still the experience was kind of special, not like a usual hook up for me and this leaves me with higher expectations and I sometimes panic about it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I liked that I got suprised by him and I didn’t expect him to be that attractive to me. I think the worst about it is that I want this “casual-sex” thing to be like a “casual-dating-and-having-sex” thing. It taught me that I sometimes want more than just sex. Not a relationship though, I just want to spend more time with my partners in general as I like  to be friends with the people I have sex with.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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