by John Doe
Current location: Manhattan
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Divorced/Single
Religious affiliation: Baptist
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
A Night At The Ballet
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two Months
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty Call/Ongoing Fling
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Cassie is a ballet dancer (she is not fond of the term ballerina). She is five six with long black hair, fit and almost too thin (I have brought this up a few times) and has a heavy southern accent. She is also only 26, a decade my junior. She has been an ongoing hookup when she is in town for the past two years.
We actually met under somewhat unusual circumstances. Someone had snatched her purse and she was chasing him, this being New York no one was helping. If I am being honest if it had not been an attractive woman I wouldn’t have either but I stepped in and tripped the guy (he would later sue me but it was worth it). She wanted to thank me so we went to dinner, which turned into drinks which turned into my apartment. Cassie is well known in the ballet world but I had no idea who she was which was part of the appeal on her part.
When Cassie is in town we are pretty much a couple, we go to the movies, art shows, out to dinner, even a baseball game and she has accompanied me to a few work dinners. When she is not in town I am a free agent.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Following my divorce four years ago I cut loose with women. I had married and had two children with the first woman I had ever slept with and we were together thirteen years. We grew apart and both fell out of love at the same time, unlike many couples I know and have read about there was no cheating.
I spent about eighteen months nailing any woman I could get my hands on. However once I met Cassie I settled into a routine regularly hooking up with her. This time was no different, she let me know a few weeks ahead of time via email she was coming back to town. We stay in touch via email when she is not in town as Cassie travels all over the world. I put a romantic dinner in the oven and lit some candles, first night back in town Cassie is usually quite tired and does not want to go out. She knocked on my door around seven or so.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We talked for a few minutes catching up but quickly started kissing. Clothes came off and we ended up on my couch. I licked and sucked her breasts for a bit, and then worked my way down. I ate her until she came, Cassie really enjoys oral. She then did the same for me and I also came.
We put a little clothing back on, and then had dinner. A few dinners I have cooked for her have been ruined in the past while we were fucking, so I had timed it so we could hook up before dinner.
After dinner we moved to my bedroom where we hooked up again, this time just standard missionary and she came and I didn’t. Afterwards we fell asleep but Cassie woke me up in the morning so we could go again, Cassie enjoys sex and makes no apologies for that fact. This time in cowgirl and I finished inside her and Cassie came shortly after. We showered and Cassie left shortly around eight as she had a practice.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes we both did several times.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Cassie is on the pill and we both have tested clean and I hadn’t been with anyone else in a while
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? First time not at all, but we did have a glass of wine each at dinner
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Cassie and I hooked up every night she was in town as we usually do. We went to the movies and to an art show, we are basically a couple when she is in town. After a few weeks she left for a series of shows across Europe and we were both sad when she left.
We have discussed the possibility of exclusivity or a real relationship but it would be hard with Cassie’s tour schedule and her long periods of absence. However I have found myself looking at other women less and the last two times Cassie was out of town I didn’t even hook up with anyone else and I haven’t this time either. She is due back in town in about three weeks and we have already planned to meet up and have a serious talk this time.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Most people I have introduced Cassie have really liked her, she even met my parents once. Everyone knows we are sleeping together.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes for both of us.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Great sex with someone I am very attracted to, worst part was I knew this hookup had a time limit on it. I think the biggest change here is that for the first time since my divorce I am considering the possibility of an exclusive and serious relationship with someone.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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