What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Free spirit
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 5
A Quickie With George
How long ago did this hookup happen? Couple of days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? George (not real name) is a friend of my boyfriend’s and we all hang-out & smoke pot often. He’s nice, nerdy looking, 22 years old, short, overweight, with a beard, glasses, and thin hair on top. His girlfriend is short, very overweight, jealous, and always putting George down, and she makes sarcastic comments about clothes.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was around noon and I’d been outside working on my tan when my boyfriend sent me a text he was getting off work early. I was excited and gave him a call. A guy at work hooked him up some pot, and he asked me to come over now because his friends were coming over at 3pm. I was excited because my boyfriend works long hours and it had been four days since we last had sex.
I took a quick shower to get the sunscreen off my skin and to make sure everything was smooth. I put on a denim mini, turquoise crop top, and heels used an app to order a couple of snack trays and left. I let myself in and the room was filled with a haze of smoke. My boyfriend was almost asleep, watching TV, and finishing a joint. He’d had a long day at work, so he thought he would take a few hits before I arrived to take the edge off. I hiked up my skirt and straddled him. He put his large muscular hands on my ass and we kissed. I pulled his shorts down and began sucking him. I tried everything, but I didn’t get a reaction. He apologized and told me he was too relaxed, and that maybe we could try later. I stopped and began putting away the food trays when someone knocked on the door. It was George, he lived next door with his parents. He asked if he could hang-out as long as he wasn’t interrupting anything. My boyfriend looked at me, smiled, and said, “George, can you do me a solid? I need you to fuck Katie.” He explained why. George knows we have an open relationship, and I’ve had sex with most of the guys we hang out with, but was afraid his girlfriend would find out. We told him no one would ever know unless he told. My boyfriend pointed at me and said, “You can’t tell me you don’t want to fuck that.” He agreed to a quickie, and everyone agreed it would be cool.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I got my boyfriend a beer and pulled George to the bedroom. He took off his pants and his penis was smaller than average, thin, soft, and un-groomed. I started giving him oral and it was like sucking a middle finger. He told me his girlfriend didn’t like giving oral, so I made a point to take my time. He was semi hard so I took off my shirt to see if that would help. He eventually got hard. I took my skirt and panties off, put a condom on him, and got on the bed. He got on top and I felt his penis poking me. He finally got inside me and started fucking me slowly. It felt like I was being fingered. His stomach was pressing against me and was not comfortable. I suggested we stand up and I bent over. I told him to grab my hips and fuck me hard, but he never did and his rhythm was off. At one point I remember making a comment, “We’re having sex, it’s ok to grab or smack my ass & squeeze my tits.”
I suggested he lay on the bed and I got on top. His soft belly was in the way, but I managed to get him inside and grind. I put his hands on my tits and I knew he was close. I told him to cum on my chest, but he wasn’t quick enough and he barely came too. This lasted less than 10 minutes. I was still horny and offered oral to get him hard so we could go again, but he told me he was done for the evening. To be honest, I was a little frustrated until he told me that was the best sex he’d ever had and that I had a killer body. I gave him a kiss.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We left the bedroom and my boyfriend was taking a nap. I adjusted his head with a pillow and kissed his head. George and I went out back and smoked a joint. He told me he doesn’t have sex with his girlfriend often and that was the 12th time he’d ever had sex. He enjoyed the other positions but knew his girlfriend would never try them. My boyfriend woke up an hour later and joined us. The other guys began showing up and watched the game and smoked pot for the rest of the evening.
Everyone left but I spent the night. The next morning my boyfriend woke up hard and we had morning sex for a long time. He made up for yesterday by rocking my world and giving me multiple orgasms.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my boyfriend the next morning before we had sex. He gets turned on when I tell him a hook-up story before sex.
My boyfriend suggested I have sex with George a few more times to give him practice. I don’t think so. I’m selective with guys I have regular sex with, though I enjoy the excitement of a one-time hook-up.
George was a one-time hookup.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Hearing my boyfriend say, “George, can you do me a solid? I need you to fuck Katie.”
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? George’s lack of experience and our bodies didn’t match up well.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’ve had sex with most of my boyfriend’s friends but none of them were in a relationship at the time AND we get along.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish more people would be open to having casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy reading other people’s experiences and my boyfriend insists I post mine.
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