What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourne
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Executive Assistant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open to suggestions
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
A Room with a View
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met through work at a conference my company organizes, the subject of my first posting on this site.
After lots of sexy texts and two failed attempts to meet up again (I was stood up because of a puppy!), we hooked up a few nights ago in his hotel room in town.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Lots of planning was involved. M left his room key with the concierge, so I let myself in. The room was lovely, with a spectacular view of the city through floor-to-ceiling windows. I lay down on the bed in my clothes (silk shirt, pearl necklace, black skirt, stay ups, split-crotch underwear) and waited.
About half an hour later, M arrived back from a client meeting. He looked tired but pleased to see me.
I stood up and went to him. We started kissing immediately – slow and sensual at first, becoming more and more passionate.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On the bed, M unbuttoned my shirt, undid my bra and kissed and licked my nipples. He tore one of my stockings and removed it stroking my leg. I undid my skirt and he took it off, revealing my crotchless underwear that I hope beautifully framed my pierced clit and already-wet cunt.
As he went down on me I played with my nipples. Then he moved away and, taking my hand, led me to the window. He deftly opened the curtain and pushed me back onto the cold glass. He then turned me around fondling my breasts and touching my nipples to the glass. I bent over and he took me from behind, toying with my arse. My hot breaths created condensation and my hands left smudgy smears.
We moved back to the bed. M told me to suck him and pulled my hair to direct my rhythm. We 69d and then I climbed on top, fucking hard and deep. M said to be careful because he was close to cumming. I told him to cum and that I would lick it from his cock. He did and so I did.
We drank a glass of wine and talked about children, jobs and music. M had a headache off and on all day, I tried to ease it with a massage, but don’t think I was very successful.
I said that the best thing would probably be if I left so he could get some sleep. I showered and dressed, leaving with a kiss.
Although I didn’t orgasm I left feeling completely satisfied, I enjoyed every moment, every kiss, caress, lick, touch and thrust.
M is a wonderful, thoughtful, powerful lover – I enjoy him being in control, gently but firmly telling me what to do. He makes me feel incredibly sexy and desired. He is commanding but genuinely gets off by turning me on. Can’t wait to see him again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the days that have followed, I have felt the warm afterglow of a wonderful encounter mixed with the smugness of having committed the perfect crime and gotten away with it.
My hope is that M and I will have a long, mutually satisfying affair, hooking up when we can and teasing each other in the meantime.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fucking against the cold window, looking at the view.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His headache, even though it didn’t inhibit his performance.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, it has reaffirmed my opinion that as long as one is careful then no one gets hurt. If expectations are in alignment casual sex with a partner you can trust is amazing.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have a high sex drive that is not fulfilled by my husband. Casual sex with a stable, like-minded partner gives me the satisfaction I don’t receive within my marriage.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is becoming my confessional! It is great to have a forum to share one’s own stories and read those of others.
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