by rainbow

Gender: Female
Age: 23
Race/ethnicity: Chinese
Location: Asia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: none
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Self-Centered Personal Trainer

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is my personal trainer and of the same age as me. He is just 163 cm but with great muscles. He got a charming smile and that’s the reason why I picked him as my trainer in the gym. But he is really strict during training and I always get mad with him during training. Off training, we talk a lot about my life and his life. He always told me his sexual experiences with different sex partners. Obviously, he has sex quite often with different girls.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One time after training at night, he invited me to go to his home to smoke weed with his housemate. First time going to his home, I was quite nervous as I have had a crush on him already. I was so glad that he trusted me and invited me to go to his home (which I later found that I was too naive actually). First time nothing sexual happened as we just smoked and talked for a few hours. Then I went to his home later in the following week for 2nd time and nothing sexual happened either. For the third time, as I had just finished my exam and he finished early in the afternoon on Saturday, we decided to order some delivery and chilled at his place again. 

Back home, his living room was occupied with lots of furniture as his housemates were moving in. So he pointed to his room and said we could just chill on his bed. We each had our own laptop and we lay in bed doing our own stuff on the computer. When the delivery came, we ate on his bed. It was still early in the afternoon and we didn’t do anything sexual (I wasn’t really expecting at that time anyway). During evening, we moved back to the living room and started smoking weed and watching some movies. His housemate was there too on the same sofa with him. I was lying on the other sofa. 
Then his housemate went to his room, he then lay down on his sofa and pointed to the space in front of me and hinted that I should lie down in the space in front of him. I have no idea why I followed his instruction (maybe because he is my PT) and lay down in front of him. He then put his hand on my waist.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? His housemate did come out later and chilled on the sofa where I laid down previously and after midnight he went to bed. So we started making out in the living room. We kissed and his hands touched over my body, boobs and butt….. after a while we moved to his room and started kissing and removing our clothes. It was my first sex after I broke up with my ex few years ago and so I was very tight. He tried to go in at front and at the back as well and failed. I was in great pain too. At last, he asked me to give him oral and so he cum. After sex, he was very indifferent, he just wanted to smoked weed and watched his stupid video on the laptop. There was absolutely no cuddling whatsoever. I asked if we can talk a bit and he just said “I would be in trouble if we talked.” We had sex after one or two weeks later, this time the penetration is kinda of success. He said he wanna cum inside me but he didn’t wear any condom and I asked him not to. He then asked me to give me oral and wanna cum inside my month.
I did give him oral but I don’t really like he cum inside my mouth. So once he cum, I just escaped and his semen were split all over the mattress. He then blamed me avoiding it and made his bed dirty. He said that I should have told him earlier if I wanna escape.
After sex he was very rude again, he just ordered me to wear clothes and chilled in living room. After midnight he said he wanted to sleep and asked me to go home!!! I actually intended to stay overnight and it hurt me so much when he asked me to go! Even though I am not asking for a serious relationship, I don’t think a man should ask a woman to go after sex unless it is a transactional sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No we didn’t talk about it at all. I wasn’t on pills and he did not wear any condom as he said he can’t be hard in condom. Looking back, it was very dangerous as he has many sex partners before and I gave him oral as well as penetration.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We were trainer and client relationship first and then we became friends and then I had a crush on him and then we became FWB.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Some weed.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the two hookups, I was hurt so much that I don’t wanna have any sex with him anymore. He is very nice before sex, saying how great, how smart and how pretty I am, but after sex, he just wants to push me away saying he don’t want any serious relationship. I mean I am not asking for anything serious either but he doesnt really need to be so blunt to me, which gives me a hard feeling. I want sex as well as some cuddling after sex and that’s it. I don’t think I am asking for much. 
Later he asked me to go to his place again and I said it was too far away and I don’t wanna come. He just said “I will just give you the bloody taxi money!”, which makes me feel like a prostitute. I will be very stupid if I have sex with him again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I did tell my best friend about how shit he is after sex and she just said don’t have sex again ever with him.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? consensual

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes, I regret as he refused to use any condom and he was so rough during sex. After sex, he is even worse.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: foreplay
worst: after sex, pushing me away, totally bullshit!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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