What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? South East Asia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Technical
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kinky
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2 or 3 but under another nickname
A Taste of Italian
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? An Italian man met at work whom I interacted closely with. Didn’t really find him attractive at first, but he seemed like a cool and nice guy. Upon knowing that he was leaving soon, I asked him out for dinner along with few others. Unfortunately the others were occupied, thus we ended up going out just two of us.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? During the dinner, he was mostly busy talking about his bikes. I just smiled and nodded at the things he said. He wasn’t that bad of a companion for a dinner date since I was not expecting anything. Just wanted to have some nice food and alcohols. But seeing his exposed arms that were hairy, I decided within the first few minutes that I didn’t mind if I ended up having sex with him. Again, I wasn’t expecting anything since I didn’t even shave beforehand. When the dinner was over, he suggested a place for live music. I brought him to a club where we started to let loose, drink even more, dance closely and touch each other lightly. The turning point was we both finally kissed each other. I was pulling away fast every time we kissed coz I was sort of embarrassed to be seen in public making out with white guys – the whole stereotypical thing about white guys and Asian girls, if you ask me. He started caressing my back. Then we decided to leave. As exprcted, he asked me to follow him back to his hotel room. We continued kissing along the road, inside the car. His hands reached down, trying to get in between my thighs, rubbing my pussy against my jeans. I was wet with anticipation.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I remember taking a quick wash up followed by him taking a shower. Me lying in bed waiting for him and he smelt so nice. He was planting kisses all over my body, down to my hairy pussy. I let out a pleasurable sigh when he kissed on it. Then I didn’t remember anything else because I was so drunk other than him parting my legs, positioning himself between me then thrusting his cock in with me moaning in pleasure. Anything else was blurred in memory. I remember tho asking him repeatedly to use a condom which he didn’t. Also, him apologizing about not able to cum/ last long and hard (nor sure which is which) as he was drinking a bit too much. The next morning, he woke me up coz my phone alarm was ringing loudly. We cuddled then my hand reached down to get hold of his cock, caressing before I stroked it skillfully. Before long, he was grunting then jumped up, put himself between me and fucked me hard and raw before he came on my tummy.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had to leave, almost running because I was running late and at the risk to bump into others who were also staying in that hotel. I walked my walk of shame down the lift, passed by lobby to car park. I suffered really bad hungover at work that morning. He messaged me, telling how much he enjoyed our awesome night together. While I did expect to spend another night with him (so I could find out how the sex was really like without getting passed out), unfortunately he was leaving the same evening. He said goodbye on whatsapp. Weeks later, I messaged him about a work-related inquiry, but he never replied. I felt indifferent.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. After all the sleeping around behind my bf’s back, I finally broke up with him. And I was just too happy to experiment more without the guilt.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His hairy body – the chest, the legs and arms. Too sexy. His cock must be huge coz it filled me just nice. And the pumping.
An Italian man to add to my list hehe more impressively, he is 14 years older (me love older men)
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Getting too drunk to not remember much. I was disappointed with the lack of foreplay for the night but I couldn’t be sure that he didn’t give because maybe he did eat me out rigorously, just that I couldn’t recall. 🙁
No use of condom. I did double check with him that he didn’t come in me.
I wish I gave him orals, lots of it, coz I am good at it hehe
It was dark so I didn’t have any idea how his cock looked like. Oh well, too bad.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope. I just have to keep exploring and be more adventurous with men.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I enjoy sex without guilt. I enjoy my single status 😉
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As much as I enjoy casual encounters with different men, I guess I crave the intimacy and bond between two more regular partners. The connection simply makes the whole thing more amazing.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome!
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