by Flush

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Austria
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Thing Never To Do

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1

How would you best classify this hookup? Affair

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? R was a tall, good looking, smart guy. He was my boyfriend’s best friend, but he’d became a good friend of mine, too. I thought he was quite attractive, but never considered to have sex with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was R’s Birthday and me and my boyfriend invited him for dinner at our apartment. After that we went to a nightclub, having some drinks and dance. When the club closed, we bought some beer and sat down on a park bench. I can’t remember why, but my boyfriend suddenly got very angry and went home without me. R and I were still sitting on the bench and he asked me if I’d like to have a drink before going home. I really didn’t want to go home and have a stupid fight so I accepted and came with him. At his apartment, just a few minutes away from my home, we had another beer. We talked for a long while, drinking and smoking when he suddenly stood in front of me. He looked at me in a very serious way and asked me, if everything was ok with me and my boyfriend. I started crying because it wasn’t. R took his arms around me without saying a word. We were standing there for minutes. Then I looked up, starring in his eyes. I felt his soft hand on my back, which was very intensive because I wore a backless gown. Then we started kissing.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He took me to the sofa and I sat on his lap. We didn’t stop kissing and his hands touched every part of my body. Then we went to the bedroom while putting off our clothes. I was laying on my back and he leaned over me. He told me how beautiful I looked tonight and I grabbed his head. I can’t remember how long we had sex but it was much more intense than having sex with my boyfriend. We did a lot of positions and I had an orgasm that was so intense, I started shivering. He smiled, still going on and had an orgasm, too. After that we were laying in the bed next to each other and swore never to tell anybody what had happened. Then he lighted a cigarette and gave it to me. Then we got back to bed and did it once more. While the sun was rising, he walked me home and when we arrived at my door, he kissed my nose. 
A few months later I broke up with my boyfriend. R and I still keep this affair going on but nobody knows that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condoms

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was stuck in a relationship that couldn’t make me happy.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A few glass of champagne and two beer.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt incredible free. Without him I’d never figured out what having good sex means. Anyway, I never wanted a relationship but I like, keep that affair going on.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A very good friend of mine who’s 20 years older than me. She told me that every woman needs an experience like that.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? After the hookup I knew what I wanted and that you should live out your sexual needs. If you are happy and nobody get’s hurt, why not do something unconventional.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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